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FIRST ON 3: Police investigating report of sexual assault behind downtown gay bar

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THE FOLLOWING IS INFORMATION FROM THE WILMINGTON POLICE DEPARTMENT:

Case#: 2011-020644
Time: 3:15 a.m. – Friday morning
Location: 100 Betten Court (alley)
Offense: 1st degree sex offense

Summary: While on routine patrol, officers discovered a 24-year-old man in the alley behind Slice of Life and Ibiza. He was naked except for a trash bag wrapped around his waist, and he appeared to be urinating on a vehicle in the parking lot.

Initially, the victim, who was intoxicated, did not want to talk about what had happened because he said he was afraid a family member would find out.

After further questioning, he said had been sexually assaulted in the alley by a man he had met in the bar. He said the two men had performed consensual sex acts on each other earlier in the evening in a restroom inside the bar, but he said the second incident (outside in the alley) was forced.

The scene was processed for evidence and the victim was taken to the ER for evidence collection there. The case remains under investigation.

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Careful, you may have just outed yourself.

How is it that all these critical folks know what the mood, smell, and cleanliness of Ibiza's bathroom?

I guess it's true, the ones that make all the fuss usually have some skeletons in their closet.

What your favorite night of the week to go?

It's a bathroom in a bar - yuccckkk!

Everyone has been in a bar's bathroom, and no one has ever been impressed with their cleanliness. I'm sure that drunk gays miss the urinal as often as drunk straight guys.

You're not trying to reinforce yet another sterotype about all gays being fastidious, prissy and having spotlessly clean bathrooms, are you?

How about you?

Any night you are there is fine with me. See ya soon.

Hello friend

Went with the classic "I'm rubber you're glue" approach.

My 2 cents

I was going to refrain from comment but this is just too easy. First, as you all have been informed, the correct charge is crime against nature; not rape. For it to be "rape' your victim has be female, your assailant has to be male. Bottom line. There is another element specific to rape but I don't think it would make it past the editors. But, I think you can figure it out.

Another good point was raised. Was the "victim" charged with crime against nature for his willingness to participate in sex acts with another man in the bathroom? He broke the law and admitted it. I dont care what happened in the alley later, he broke the law in the bathroom. He should be charged. If the assailant is ever arrested, if he is charged with the crimes in the bathroom, his partner better be also.

Now, someone said God made people gay and they were born that way. How can I put this politely? Horse Hockey! All men are created equal and endowed by their creator. Men and women were created with certain sexual organs to be fruitful and multiply. If you are a homosexual, that is your choice. I dont care either way. I dont agree with it and I choose not be a part of it. You were not born that way. You saw a lifestyle and CHOSE to become part of it. Deal with it and stop blaming everyone else for your choices and mistakes.

Funny...but did you not

Funny...but did you not contradict yourself?.. as you did say that to GOD, ALL men are created equal. I do not think GOD would find it your place to judge either!

There is so much that's

There is so much that's completely wrong in your post...where to begin? The State of NC is stuck in the middle ages when it comes to sexual assault, as many other states (and nations) are. However, the truth is plain and simple. Non-consensual sex (with or without penetration) is rape. A woman can rape another woman even without penetration. A man can rape a woman without penetration. A man can rape a man without penetration. A rose by any other name would still smell as sweet, as Will Shakespeare said. However you call it, it still is unwanted sexual contact and it still is rape.

What happened in the bathroom is not under question. That was consensual sex and thus ok (regardless of where it happened). What happened behind the alley, however, assuming it did happen, is certainly rape or, if you want, non-consensual sex. Whenever someone says "No" the other party has to stop. If the other party continues, then it's rape.

As for the nature vs. nurture argument with regards to homosexuality, I know for a fact I was born straight. But I also know people who knew for a fact who were not straight. Who would willingly choose to 'become' homosexual so as to be discriminated against, hated, derided or even killed (see Matthew Shepherd)?

As to the argument that God wanted us to be fruitful and multiply, that's just your religious belief with which I and others don't agree. There are over 6 billion people on this earth, most of whom are barely surviving as is. Just in the U.S., there are thousands of kids who are in the foster care system because they are unwanted or abused. Their parents certainly did multiply and may have met God's goals, but they have failed as human beings and parents.

Since I am unable to have kids and have had to have a hysterectomy due to cancer, I guess I must be worthless in the eyes of your God as a woman... I'm glad my husband values me for the person I am and not for my having (or not) a uterus.

You just failed your LSAT

Penetration (or intrusion) IS INDEED an element of proof in many rape statutes. They will often state words to the effect of..."Penetration, however slight, is sufficient to complete the offense."

Issues

The society as a whole which the law governs says that being raped has to involve a penis and a vagina. We are in the land of the free people if you do not like our laws move to another country where you can be raped in a court yard and no one cares. guest1972 this man was not raped plain and simple, people get over it. This man admitted to sexual acts with another of which are against the law. He should be charged as well as the other guy. Maybe he should reflect on his actions what put him in that situation.

Not Rape

The man was not raped. If this would have happened between a man and woman then it would have been rape, but not two men. Read your NC general statues people.

what is rape?

so.. if a woman breaks into your home and rapes you with a broom stick then it's not rape? because she and you both are women? what a nice christian woman you must be!

I have to ask

was he charged with anything? Did he spill his guts and name the other party?

NC may be backward and behind the times. But, unless the legislature takes action this year, there are certain sex acts which are considered "crimes against nature".

Since he admitted to certain activities, did they charge him with "an act against nature"?

The media is really missing out here.

Bring Springer to town & let him do a few shows in our beautiful downtown. Imagine the hilarity in watching this guy, and his new friend, when the new friend's spouse or significant other comes on stage.

How about Oprah & Cosby doing a couple of segments on the gang element and those clubs such as Rhino. They may need interperters as these 5 star Gang Generals barely speak literately.

For that matter, maybe the City could convice Oprah to drop a few million and build a Hotel next to the Convetion Center.

On another note, why not try investigative reporting WWAY. Turn the evening news anchors loose downtown, after the 11:00 news, and see what investigative reporters can develop. I can see Chris & Cachy wandering downtown with a cameraman.

Scene 1 -- they come upon 2 young men. One seems to have his face in the crotch of the other. Chris -- "excuse me; what are you doing there?" Cachy -- "is that a crime against nature? You need to move to another state where it is not. Try Indiana"

Scene 2 -- it's 3 AM. They happen to be in the parking lot at Market & Kerr. Young gentlemen are exiting the nearby club. Chris -- "excuse me; what are you going to do with that gun? Gutteral response, which no one understands for the pistol holder. Cachy -- "I really like the color and pattern of your tee and head gear. Where can I get those?" Another gutteral response which no one understands although Cachy gets a panic look on her face as he puts his arm around her; begins guiding he toward the 63 Impala; and calls her Mama.

Scott -- you're really missing some opportunities here to boost your ratings. Maybe you could include the Mayor as part of the roving news team.

It's been a long day already.

ROFLMAO

ROFLMAO

Don't you just love

these thought provoking posts?

It must have been a slow day somewhere?

What is wrong with you people???

IF this had happened to a woman you all would be singing a different tune wouldn't ya?
I don't know what is wrong with society today. People are gay! They're BORN like that...GET THE HECK OVER IT. They're not wrong, they're not dirty, they're not sinners and going to burn in the fires of hell...you know why? Because God made them that way. They're not genetic mistakes...They are human beings, just like you.
Those of you who are writing all this crap should be terribly ashamed of yourselves.
Do you lead perfected lives? Have you never said a hurtful thing in your life? Have you never told a white lie? I bet you have, I bet you've broken the law and done all sorts of things too, but hell that's okay because you're straight right? You people need to GROW up and realize that people are people, no matter what race, creed or sexual orientation.
I will pray for the lot of you tonight when I go to sleep...I think YOU are the ones who need the prayers..

REMEMBER NO MEANS NO!! Doesn't matter WHO it happened to. SHAME ON YOU ALL.

Nope! You're wrong

Had this happened to a woman who freely admitted that she had just serviced the guy in the rest room, I'd call her a pig and have no sympathy for her at all.

I don't comprehend why this is so confusing to you Nirods. It's not about "gay." It's about having what is supposed to be a warm, meaningful experience, in my opinion the greatest thing since sliced bread, in a stinky crapper....and then crying the blues when your lover is waiting for you outside. Oh, I'm sorry....was he supposed to think that you were some fine, upstanding citizen of high moral character?

As I said in the first post, I'd bet that monogamous gay couples despise this kind of conduct, because it perpetuates and reinforces the belief that gay sex is dirty and disgusting.

Whats wrong with other locations

Don't knock it pal. I have had quite a few heterosexual encounters in some bathrooms, cinemas, clubs, a dairy cooler in a grocery store and even a couple of restaurants. I always felt like I better take advantage of it while she was in the mood.
You have too much Common Sense....or maybe not enough.

There's nothing wrong with other locations

I don't care where you've done it. I'm older and can probably top you in a contest of weird places to have had sex.

There is only ONE location we're talking about here - a toilet in a bar. We're not talking about on your girlfriend's clean bathroom counter, we're talking about a typical bar with a typical bathroom and all the typical atmosphere of any bathroom used by lots of drunks.

Lemme preach it again, breathren....YUUCCCCKKKKKK!!!!!

Kids these days

What ever happened to staying home on a Saturday night and playing pinochle or having a Mitch Miller sing-a-long party. Harmless fun

Common Sense

Don't debate with commonNOsense or Surf City bomb. If you don't know by now their opinions are never wrong. LMAO in Maco.

Were that the case

folks like you would be prepping for a trip down below while others would be packing for a trip upstairs.

Perhaps part of the challenge for people like you is that Common and I back up our posts, for the most part, with fact. Verifiable Fact.

That's likely something you would not recognize as most of your posts start and end with LMAO.

We can be wrong. Not often; but we can be wrong.

And we freely admit we express a conservative view point. Again, something entitlement recipients and society's leaches would hide from.

So prove us wrong. Do some reading and research. Or sit in Columbus County and LMAO. And people wonder why Columbus County is the way it is.

What

What would the Seals that killed Bin Laden think?

SurfCityTom, You are wrong

SurfCityTom, You are wrong in that post. Maco is not in Columbus County. Try again. We don't support gays and treehuggers in Columbus County.

2 Points

You have just proven a post I made earlier today. I can make a mistake. Unlike so many who post here, I will stand up; admit I erred; and apolgize.

Maco is in Brunswick County.

Based upon your last statement, how do you explain Senator Soles' repeated re-elections?

He is not from Columbus

He is not from Columbus County. He lives on the taxpayer's state built Lake Tabor which is independent.(no rules, government, etc.) That tract was cut out of Columbus County years ago and went independent. As a majority, people in Columbus County vote democrap because of farming etc.... and the free things given from that form of government. I think you are seeing that change here now. It is hard to beat people who buy votes and scratch others backs all the time. The Jon David deal with Jolly right now is just a witch hunt by the old corrupt group.
As a majority, tree huggers/liberals are not tolerated. If so, they stay in the closet for the most.

Wow...

Wow....I can't believe this is even a top story. Do you think the title could have read "....behind downtown bar?" I mean, I'm heterosexual but would a news organization ever entitle a story "....behind a downtown heterosexual bar?" Come on guys.

Yea, way to call them out.

Yea, way to call them out. Wonder why they didn't refer to Club 609 or Rhino as "black clubs". I am completely astonished at how prejudicial this story title is.

Question

To the Downtown "Historical" Socialites:

Were countless hours of meetings worth it???? Was it really urgent to make prospective "respectable" business owners adhere to all of the silly guidelines of brick and mortar? Happy?

Guess what? NOW, no one even WANTS to open in Downtown anymore as there are so many other nice places that don't have old, frumpy, stodgy historical committees to contend with. Hope you people are happy, you are 100% responsible for the blight.

Have you read the headlines today? Gay RAPE in the ALLEYWAYS. Lovely! Breaktaking! Scenic?

Do you think we should have ALLOWED good businesses to enter the downtown arena, instead of doing everything immaginable to weed the historically challenged out. So, how's it work? Oh yeah, the downtown BARS "HISTORICALLY" are the ONLY ones that can afford dimwitted attempts to keep downtown historically correct, as you people REQUIRE.

Downtown has become URBAN BLIGHT, and there is nothing QUAINT about it.

Enjoy! Live it! Breathe it! YOU OWN IT. You can HAVE IT!!!

Historical Hysteria

i agree , the historical hysteria is ridiculous.
today's different is tomorrow's historical.
if you want to preserve the history of a building....you buy it.Don't just demand to approve (or disapprove OF YOUR NEIGHBOR'S EFFORTS ON HIS own PROPERTY.
Mind your own business and let others fix their property like they want. It's not as if the historical hysterics are preserving downtown for the better.....that's only their opinion. Liberty and private property rights are more important to society than opinionated Architecture Nazis.And how many of those in the Historical Society were actually BORN HERE?.....just curious.....(BTW, that ought to be a requirement to even be considered for that board, if they are going to force others to their historical imaginings , they should at least be historically accurate as native citizens themselves....or just go tell their own (historical)
hometown how to rebuild.

Rape/sexual assault can

Rape/sexual assault can happen to any one, gay or straight. I hope this gentleman finds therapy and the medical assistance he needs and that the perpetrator is brought to justice.

I am a woman who has never been sexually assaulted (thankfully), but I know many - both men and women - who have. It's a lifelong scar that doesn't get healed.