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UNCW puts out list of 'gay-friendly' churches, businesses

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WILMINGTON, NC (WWAY) -- UNCW has put out a list of "gay friendly" churches and businesses. The list was e-mailed a few weeks ago, and has since been questioned by students and staff.

It's also making international headlines. One professor says not only is this upsetting, but it is an inappropriate use of state resources.

"I think gays and straights, Christians and atheists, everyone should agree that it is not the state's business to go around and do research of churches and then kind of pick the ones that agree with them," Dr. Mike Adams said.

The Lesbian Gay Bisexual Transgender Questioning Intersex and Allied Resource Office at UNCW began distributing the list last month. Referred to as a "resource guide" the e-mail not only included "gay-friendly" churches but also attorneys, businesses and even health care providers.

Dr. Kimberly Cook, head of UNCW's sociology department, later suggested professors share it with their students.

"I was just stunned that she circulated that e-mail and suggested that we ought to share it with our students," Adams said. "I am absolutely outraged by it."

However, some students say they feel the guide could be a good thing.

"It doesn't offend me at all," UNCW junior Sarah Heverly said. "I think it's great to try and incorporate different people and make them comfortable in their community."

Heverly says she understands Dr. Adams's perspective, but says the group was only trying help.

"I can see it being inappropriate," she said. "I can see both sides of it, but I definitely think that any way that we can incorporate everyone and make them feel welcome is great. We have different groups all over campus. What's the difference?"

Adams says though the "gay-friendly" guide probably has not crossed the legal line, it should not be distributed.

UNCW Chancellor Gary Miller issued this statement about the list:

“UNCW actively fosters, encourages and promotes equality and inclusiveness For everyone in accordance with our university policies. I am personally committed to this ideal. That includes providing resources for all groups. I believe the resource guide recently released by LGBTQIA was intended for that purpose. To ensure we are fulfilling our responsibilities as a public university, I am asking that the Office of Diversity and Inclusion review the process by which the guide was created before it is distributed further.”

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What's sad is that there are

What's sad is that there are still so many ignorant, hateful people like Adams out there. These people are the reason it is necessary to put out a list of "gay friendly" places. If everyone acted like a decent, intelligent human beings, that kind of list wouldn't be necessary.

The University and the Nanny State

The University, along with the rest of the UNC system and most of the rest of public college education in this country, needs to focus on teaching and research. College students are ADULTS who should not need the constant in-loco-parentis (emphasis on "loco") nurturing.

If students, or anyone else, choose to freely associate in mutual support, fine. The University doesn't need to spend staff time and resources in facilitating such actvities, of whatever ideology.

Getting rid of the unnecessary staff throughout the UNC system who facilitate these activities - as well as privatizing such functions as housing and dining - would make a major dent in the system's budget shortfalls.

Are we really arguing about this?

Student services publish a list of Spanish speaking business and services in town, which includes Religious service as well as Local Organizations that are fairly exclusively for the African American community, what's the difference?

No matter where you stand on

No matter where you stand on this issue, I urge everyone to take a look at Romans 1:26-32

Because of this, God gave them over to shameful lusts. Even their women exchanged natural sexual relations for unnatural ones. 27 In the same way the men also abandoned natural relations with women and were inflamed with lust for one another. Men committed shameful acts with other men, and received in themselves the due penalty for their error.

28 Furthermore, just as they did not think it worthwhile to retain the knowledge of God, so God gave them over to a depraved mind, so that they do what ought not to be done. 29 They have become filled with every kind of wickedness, evil, greed and depravity. They are full of envy, murder, strife, deceit and malice. They are gossips, 30 slanderers, God-haters, insolent, arrogant and boastful; they invent ways of doing evil; they disobey their parents; 31 they have no understanding, no fidelity, no love, no mercy. 32 Although they know God’s righteous decree that those who do such things deserve death, they not only continue to do these very things but also approve of those who practice them.

Now one thing you can't deny, no matter what you think, feel, or believe - is that the degradation and decline of every single empire over the last 6000 years can be directly attributed to the rise in homosexuality. Go research it. As society degraded morally, every single factor pertaining to a civilization's strength; economic, liberty, trade, and military might degraded along with it; and homosexuality among the population grew at an equal rate.

It's right there in history; you can either ignore it or you can accept it - but one thing you can't do is say it isn't true. The Bible verse above explains it perfectly - God basically gets sick and tired of putting up with a nation's crap and removes His hand somewhat, allowing a rise in such immorality.

Therefore, it could actually be true that a person is "born" with homosexual desires. However, it isn't in their DNA - you will never find the "gay" gene. It is a direct result of the above.

If you study American history, you can see this effect - look at our nation 200 years ago, when we believed in God, and lived moral lives. We enjoyed prosperity, liberty, and were the light of the world. Even as recent as the 1940s and 50s - we were flourishing and prospering. Look at the rate of homosexuality and moral decline in society. And then look at the 60s, 70s, 80s, and up to now. As morality broke down, faith in God declined, every indicator of prosperity declined as well.

The great antidote is revealed in 2 Corinthians 7:14 "if my people, who are called by my name, will humble themselves and pray and seek my face and turn from their wicked ways, then I will hear from heaven, and I will forgive their sin and will heal their land." - this is a message JUST TO CHRISTIANS. A lot of people get that wrong - they think that the whole nation has to do this. But it clearly says "people - who are called by my name". We, the Christians, need to humble ourselves, confess our sins, and cry out to God - and He promises that he will "heal our land" - which is what our land desperately needs - and I don't think anyone would argue with that.

Where am I standing on?

"Now one thing you can't deny, no matter what you think, feel, or believe - is that the degradation and decline of every single empire over the last 6000 years can be directly attributed to the rise in homosexuality. Go research it. As society degraded morally, every single factor pertaining to a civilization's strength; economic, liberty, trade, and military might degraded along with it; and homosexuality among the population grew at an equal rate."

First, we are not an empire. Second, that's not true, in fact, many scholars claim that Christianity played a part in the demise of many an empire, including the fall of the Roman empire. As a follower of the word of Christ, I believe that the fall of this nation may be at the hands of Christians as well - those who twist Christianity into a religion that breeds and encourages hatred and hypocrisy.

"For I was hungry and you gave me food, I was thirsty and you gave me drink, I was a stranger and you welcomed me, I was naked and you clothed me, I was sick and you visited me, I was in prison and you came to me.
Then the righteous will answer him, saying, 'Lord, when did we see you hungry and feed you, or thirsty and give you drink? And when did we see you a stranger and welcome you, or naked and clothe you? And when did we see you sick or in prison and visit you?'
And the King will answer them, 'Truly, I say to you, as you did it to one of the least of these my brothers, you did it to me.'"
(Matthew 25.35-40 ESV)

Let's face reality here

UNCW has a commitment and a dedication to it's students. That means addressing all creeds, races, nationalities, religions, sexual orientations and many other walks of life. They have an obligation to create a save haven to those new to the greater campus areas.

Since before the tragic events of Columbine, it has always been tough to protect students from all types of harm. However, each day new challenges arise and the college does the best it can to provide comfort and safety during a time that can be difficult for some.

Posting this information is no different than listing local restaurants, attractions and other civic events the like. A community is many people of all types, including homosexuals.

Intolerance kills. You have freedom of religion but you also have freedom of acceptance. We all bleed red.


"Eventually, I believe that you all will kill each other off with your absurd paranoia.

So don't spend a red cent in "gay" businesses, they don't want your f@&$)( money anyway."

In my previous post, I explained that I can't spend any money with businesses that support that "lifestyle". And I also condemned the vandalism at the church.

There were no rude, violent, sentiments expressed toward gays. Basically, everyone has the right to spend and patronize who they wish.

However, your statement if rife with hatred and vulgarities.


Your an excellent example of "tolerance".

Where can I get a copy of this list?

I want to utilize some of those Lesbian businesses, hoping to troll for a couple of women hovering in that "LBQ" range.

My first long-term girlfriend when I moved to Wilmington was bisexual..."SHARINGLY" bisexual, and the cardio workouts were astounding....

...of course, I was a lot younger then....but I'm now old enough to appreciate Rodney Dangerfield's line: "I like to have sex with two women. That way, when I fall asleep, they have someone to talk to."


Is anyone surprised that the 'professor' wasn't at all concerned with the list of churches on that same school's main website? This is the same guy who sued to try and close the LGBT center, remove any protections for them at the school, has produced some of the most vile rants I've ever seen (even attacking children), and made legal arguments that he himself has full rights to indoctrinate students on political and religious topics during work time and against his employers wishes (yay tenure ...).

This is just a guy with an obsessive hatred of gay people yelling in public over nothing ... again.

your all worthless and weak

So did none of you people read the Constitution? What happened to seperation of church and state... Do state funds support UNCW? So why are lists being prepared on material paid for through state tax revenues to increase the attendance and income of local churches? The answer is yes regardless of moral or ethical "feelings". So Professor Dufus is more or less right dispite his questionable motivations. And Professor Legally-Ignorant in a rush to be as inclusive and hop on some non-existant socially aware highground (and fill some classes with diciples) was probably blissfully unaware of how the law works where state funds are used. So there... everyone except me is wrong.

As a postscript... Doesnt that also mean UNCW is now required to produce a list of un-friendly gay churches, businesses, and the like? What about womens rights? How about animal rights activists. I want complete inclusivness of every group of people, dogs, cats, birds, and bugs...

RE: your [sic] all worthless and weak

First, you are assuming that all of the money that the LGBTQIA Center receives comes from taxpayer funds and not from student tuition or donation. Have you investigated this possibility before you make a claim? Doubtful. The goal of the e-mail was not to raise revenues for local churches but to help students. It is the University's job, acting in loco parentis, to provide a safe and supportive environment for all students, as well as to act as a resource for information on the community for students and their parents. The University provides multiple resources for women and would be happy, I'm sure, to provide you with a list of un-friendly gay churches, businesses and the like if you were a student and requested such a list. I doubt however that they would provide a list of inclusive businesses and churches for dogs, cats birds and bugs as they are not eligible to attend UNC-W.

Shoddy reporting by WWAY

If WWAY is going to quote a polarizing figure like Dr. Adams in their report they should take care to recognize his personal vendetta against UNCW, Dr. Cook and the LGBTQIA Center at UNCW in particular. Is WWAY aware that Dr. Adams has been convicted of anti-gay hate speech? All they would need to do is google his blog - he wrote about it. Dr. Adams has posted many blogs complaining about the existence of the LGBTQIA center. Dr. Adams has filed several lawsuits against the school - oddly, one of which was on his right to indoctrinate his students into his political and religious views (he thought it was his right to do so) and lost his case in federal court. His bigotry is well documented; WWAY should not be so naive and incompetent as to get sucked into reporting on Dr. Adams's personal feud with his bosses.

"The List"

Personally, I am grateful that this list has been released.

Now I know which Churches and which businesses I should steer clear of.

"Hate the sin, but love the sinner", this should be of great value in someone's determination of the Church that they would like to attend.

Also, maybe the Pastor's and Priest should post their beliefs on the front door of the Church. This would allow parishioners the opportunity to see which side of the question their religious leaders come down on. But maybe that would impact attendance and donations to the Church. If the leader really wants parishioners to know.

I am amazed by the fact that this "behavior" is being legitimized by Christians.

As for the businesses that are listed, I can't in good conscious, spend in that store or office etc, knowing their acceptance and backing of this "lifestyle".

Vandalizing of Church signs, and Julia Bozeman's name on the list are enough for me to refrain from doing any business with those on the list.

The lbgtiouzqrsnucps has their beliefs, I have mine!!

Thank God! These businesses

Thank God! These businesses & Churches will be better off without your hatred & your money!


Maybe Santa Clause and the Easter Bunny and some other fictional characters will save you someday as you pray to end homosexuality. However, as time goes on you will find tolerance will soon outweigh your misuse of Christianity. Morality is about acceptance of those who are ethically sound. Homosexuality has nothing to do with morality just as much as it has nothing to do with homosexuality. I'm glad there are wacko churches out there that practice intolerance. Eventually, I believe that you all will kill each other off with your absurd paranoia.

So don't spend a red cent in "gay" businesses, they don't want your f@&$)( money anyway.


If you lose your temper, you’ve lost the argument.


Maybe you should tattoo "homophobic" across your forehead so all of us who are comfortable with our sexuality will know to avoid you. Several studies have shown that men who are homophobic tend to be secretly attracted to other men. Its really sad that you have such fear of homosexuals, you might need to seek help for that.

That's a crock of stinking sludge!

You post this nonsence "studies" crap everytime someone disgrees with your homosexual lifestyle. I never really see any "fear" at all of homosexuals displayed by any of these comments. What I do see is disagreement with that lifestyle from people that happen to have faith based lives. Since homosexuals can't seem to find a place in the world of Christianity because the bible happens to condemn it, you dump religion, deface it, decry it, denounce it and want to believe it doesn't really exist, but you can't. Simply another case of denial and your own method of justifying your "different" lifestyle that so many STILL happen to disagree with.

Your posts continue to display that you have innate problems with your own form of existence and you simply aren't comfortable with who you are. Here's a beginners tip: Accept what you are and the position you are in. Realize that it is not the societal norm and accept that. Don't flaunt your unwanted lifestyle in the faces of those that don't want it (the great majority).

Public acceptance of homosexuality and the level of tolerance to that condition has increased dramatically in the last 30 years. The flagrant display of homosexuality is now posed to the public by you as an "in your face, here I am, what are you gonna do about it!" method and is greatly hampering your progress. There are still the great majority of people that don't like it, don't agree with it and many that view homosexuality as very perverse. You are never going to change that view, especially with demeaning comments that slam religion, your personal attacks with the wants of applying a forehead tattoo and by quoting some bogus studies regarding homophobia.

I have a better idea

I have a better idea. Why don't you tattoo "HOMO" across YOUR forehead so that WE can avoid YOU? After all, we are the majority, so it makes more sense financially (fewer people to tattoo). "HOMO" is only four letters, so it would fit better across the forehead than "homophobic". Or, if you want to save even more money, reduce it to three letters, "GAY". We'll still know what you mean and will still avoid you. Sounds like a plan!


People...there is no santa claus, there is no east bunny, there is no tooth fairy, and there is no god. Get over it people. Week minded individuals who are afraid of the hereafter and want to explain things are so very tiring. How is this any different than the greeks believing in zeus and hades.


I guess I am WEAK minded but at least God helped me to learn to spell.


My parents and teachers taught me to spell, you must be super special.


Weak minded homosexuals who refuse to believe in God because his plan doesn't fit there lifestyle is so very tiring. Live as you wish. Why knock others faith just because you lack it? You are full of the same hatred you claim the christians have. How are you any better?

BTW.....something doesn't add up

After reading this post and your post from the other day, I have to ask: Why, if these people are superstitious nutbags who believe in a non-existent God, heaven, and hell, does their opinion of homosexuality as a sin that endangers your non-existent soul get you so angry? Why would you care what they think?

From now on I'm going to refer to you as an athiest with a little "a." I think you may have some doubts....heh, heh, heh.....


My problem with them is that these are the same people who wish to pass judgement on my, my life, and I have no doubt legislate against me. That is my problem.


After reading all your posts, that's not your only problem.

Watch what people are cynical about, and one can often discover what they lack.

So fight them on a field of battle you can win!

There is not a doubt in my mind that the secular issues of gay rights will prevail. The Constitution will win out over religious zeal. Within five years you will have every single legal right I enjoy.

When you engage them in the arena of religion you are going to resoundingly lose every battle! It is impossible for you to win. They are playing by THEIR rule book, the Bible, and as long as they believe it is the inspired word of God, you're not going to convince them otherwise.

You can demand rights - you can't demand acceptance.

In your case it should be easy to dismiss them as whackos. You don't believe in God at all. (Or so you say, though you avoid that hydrogen atom as hard as you avoid straight sex) You should be able to look at them, shake your head, and walk away laughing. Fight them at every turn in the secular arena but don't engage them in theological or moral discussions. It's like that old adage, "Never try to teach a pig how to sing. It wastes your time and it annoys the pig."

The ones I feel sorry for are the gays and Lesbians who are trying to balance their life with Christianity. They are being led down the primrose path by false prophets who claim that the two lifestyles are not mutually exclusive. Anyone who can read the Bible understands that's nonsense and they're making it up as they go along.

The other side of that coin is that gays and Lesbians are being scared to death by people telling them that they're going to burn for all eternity if they're sexually active.

My advice to ANYONE who is faced with a moral dillema regarding their sexual preferences is to take the fundamental teachings you were raised on, be it the Bible, the Koran, or absolutely nothing, talk to God YOURSELF (he listens AND usually answers, or at least gives you a sign) and don't depend upon anyone in the big busine$$ of organized religion to tell you what's right or wrong.

I believe in God, I believe in his son Jesus, I believe that homosexuality is a sin, but I'll never tell you that you're going to hell for it.

That's between you and God.

That was very well said.

That was very well said. And, if we were to rely on an absence of sin to get us into heaven, no one would ever get in.

Let me answer

That sign was just MEAN ! I am not even gay and it makes me mad. Those people are self righteous bigots ! I don't care which group they are targeting, any church that basically tells another group that they are going to hell for their lifestyle is WRONG. Being an atheist has nothing to do with it.


Love the sinner, hate the sin is what my Bible teaches. I believe in the bible and I have read the reason God destroyed Sodom. I sympathize with those who have the homosexual deformity just as I sympathize with alcholics. Both, however, can be controlled. If we are Christian we cannot support something that God has condemned and has destroyed nations because of. It's scary. The scriptures can be found in both the old and new Testaments.
Having said this, I would never allow any of my children to attend Coastal(NC) I recommend Clemson or USC. My children and grand children have already graduated or either currently attending Clemson. There they are allowed to have Christian prayer meetings on campus.
Coastal(NC) needs a good lesson in history and how our Founders resorted to public prayer in establishing this great nation.
I'm not self-righteous, just obedient to God's command.