WECT anchor e-mails support to Commissioner Berger; Says he’s lived through similar issues


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Submitted: Fri, 09/09/2011 - 10:46pm
Updated: Sat, 09/10/2011 - 3:12am
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Kevin Mauer at the StarNews originally broke this story Friday afternoon about an e-mail exchange between WECT morning anchor Bob Townsend and New Hanover County Commissioner Brian Berger. Mauer reports that Townsend did not respond to an e-mail seeking comment, and WECT’s General Manager Gary McNair and News Director Scott Saxton declined to comment. The StarNews and WECT are local media partners who share content with each other.

From Bob to Brian
Thursday, September 8, 2011
4:26 a.m.

Nice Statement. Hang in there. Many of us have experienced some of what you have been going thru and have survived it. Just not as wide known as yours. Keep strong.

– Bob

From Brian to Bob
Friday, September 9, 2011
3:55 a.m.

Thank you Bob. That was a nice thing to say…I don’t hear alot of nice things like that. I really appreciate it.

Don’t you work in a couple of hours? Do you sleep or do you just manage with a few hours?

Granted nobody does as disturbing and outlandish and irrational things in these situations like I did, and I’m incredibly embarrassed by behavior, but I would think most people would be able to relate a little to relationship issues. I had to sever three in a week after learning Heather was cheating, and sever ties with her two sons who have a very close attachment to me and I love them. I was the first person they called dad (I put a stop to that and had them call me Brian so if their real father who abandoned them ever came back, I didn’t want them to be confused. The three year old didn’t understand what was going on but the five year old did and after saying goodbye he started crying in a way I’ve never heard anyone, child or adult, cry. It was very heartbreaking to see that. Put that all together and throw in Heather’s borderline personality disorder and my “issues” and I did not express my emotions appropriately, but there was never any violence or threats of violence contrary to what I assume people must think (and with the way some media outlets didn’t quite get the stories right, the obviously crazy behavior, and all the police calls I don’t blame people for thinking that…) Not to mention the false assault charge a few months ago and my trip to the New Hanover County Detention Center and Resort and seeing me in chains like Hannibal Lecter it’s probably somewhat instinctive to perceive danger and assume the subject is violent and thus the chains.

I can’t wait to see and hear what gets said about the protective order Heather took out…which is a long story in itself (assuming Heather told me the truth before she filled out the paperwork…) we did discuss it this afternoon so it wasn’t a surprise for me. The only impact it has on me is I have to go to at least one hearing, maybe more (WWAY will definitely be there…I’ll give you a heads-up it’s the morning of September 16…although I do hope the judge doesn’t allow cameras in the courtroom…I’ve seen enough cameras for a lifetime!) The order is not based on any violence, it’s basis is “emotional distress” from the whole fake suicide thing and photo. And I have to wait longer to get my gun back. That’s the only real effect. Well, it just occurred to me the biggest effect will be the potential to use that to keep me in the news.

So that’s why I didn’t get back to you about coming on, in addition to be extremely embarrassing and hard to talk about and drawing attention (some people crave attention, but I do not like attention, positive or negative), its rather complex. The situation doesn’t justify my behavior, but it didn’t just pop out of the blue, there was a trigger that sparked it…a very complicated one some people might understand (not the irrational behavior, but the “why” that triggered it). And that is just way too complicated for a poor storyteller like me and probably a bit much even for print media.

I did forgive Heather, in about a day, but I will NEVER be in a romantic relationship with someone who has Borderline Personality Disorder. There is almost 100-percent chance things will end in some way that is explosive and severely damaging and this is also a very high likelihood that you will need a therapist for yourself if you are involved in a relationship with someone with BDP. Unfortunately I didn’t learn this until after I was in love with Heather and the kids, so I figured there was no way about 100-percent end badly, it couldn’t possible be that certain, and I could avoid that with Heather, we might end, it might be painful, but it won’t be that damaging and I won’t need a shrink if it does end. Another example of poor judgment on my part, but I just couldn’t end the relationship before the inevitable disaster happened. I know you must think that’s crazy or me being dramatic, that’s what I thought, only death and taxes are certain. But now I understand that it’s not so crazy after all – the inevitable disastrous ending and needing a shrink after being in a relationship with someone with someone with BDP. I know BDP played a very large role in the week of drama. (I like boring, quiet and peaceful not frenetic and dramatic.)

I think in the future I’ll steer clear of dating anyone with BDP. (I’ve seen statistics showing 5-6 percent of the population has BDP, but that seems oftly high so I think its got to be less than that). Now if only I could find a way to get out of the news and back to my quiet, boring and perfectly fine life!

Thanks again for the kind words of support. I really appreciate it.

– Brian

From Bob to Brian
Friday, September 9, 2011
10:34 a.m.

Brian –

Apparently none of your peers have ever had a personal experience to where they maybe acted out of the ordinary, and in some people’s cases, acted as being temporary insane. I know exactly how you have felt with Heather. I have experienced it as well. Without going into detail, I had a friend who shared some positive feelings about me. We became good friends, but not in any romantic way, but definitely more than just a friend. Maybe romantic later on, but definitely not in the immediate future.

Last year, that person and I parted ways of that friendship. It was the other person’s decision, and I, quite honestly, was devastated. After being in somewhat of a bad situation for a long time, I had finally found someone that I thought would be a person I could count on, for a long time, and perhaps, for life. I was all ready for whatever changes were required to make that happen. But I think I became to intense in moving the relationship along, that the person (she) backed off completely. And I mean completely, no contact, cold turkey.

I about went crazy, and believe that temporary insanity was what happened to me. That was in the spring of last year. I don’t feel that I am over it yet, it still consumes me sometimes.

So what has happened between you and Heather is perhaps some of what has happened to me. Of course, you and I took different paths to try and recover from our circumstances, but because of your professional role as a County Commissioner, and with the news industry that it is now, your position became very public. That is a shame, but again, the world is different, depending on the roles we have in our lives.

Don’t beat yourself up. Keep going. The last thing you need now in your personal life is to let the others control what you have in your professional life. You don’t have to be defiant, but just be strong. Get thru this thing on September 16, hold your head up high, take whatever comes, and move on.

I do know of a good doctor that I go to, and he has helped me tremendously, not saying you need the help, but maybe someone to talk with about this. If you want his name, just let me know. He is really good and has been a blessing to me. In the meanwhile, if you need to talk with someone who has had a very familiar role with some of what you are going thru, don’t hesitate to call, you have my number. I am not expert, but a victim of a circumstance that I am still trying to get a handle on.

As fas as tv, you may want to consider it after September 16, just leave it where you did yesterday. You made your feelings known, you spoke up and gave your position, now don’t do anything until they do the next step (court hearing). You are safe in the Commissioners role, just have to put up with people who don’t know the circumstances and quick to judge without that knowledge. Just do your job, show up (on time) at the meetings, and as my doctor told me, put on my “big boy pants” and move on. Time will heal everything, or at least I am hoping that will happen. Just hang in there. People who have experienced the same circumstances know what is going on, just a bunch of real asses out there in the world who thinks they know everything and want to bully people. Screw them. Keep strong.

Call if you need anything. Wanna meet for lunch someday, just let me know. I hate eating alone. Thanks.

– Bob

78 Comments

  • Guest says:

    If you want true, professional journalism, watch WECT. If you want gossip, waiting waiting for TMZ or The Soup to come on, watch WWAY. I guess it’s a good thing WWAY doesn’t do print journalism, otherwise they’d be gunning for the Star News and gossiping about them. GROW UP and quit embarrassing Wilmington!

  • Guest Page Dotres says:

    GuestLee, in reply to your points:

    1) I certainly hope not.

    2) Bob is entitled to an opinion. If from his experience he believes it possible for someone to bounce back from something like this without giving up their job, then so be it. However we may disagree, he’s expressed his opinion to Brian personally, not professionally in this instance.

    3) Brian needs help, no argument there.

    4) The story leads with “Kevin Mauer at the StarNews originally broke this story Friday afternoon…”. I suspect that they were exchanged on the public server. It is unfortunate and unnecessary that they should have been publicized, however it came about.

  • Guest28451 says:

    Ms Blaylock,
    I hate to point out but 1st off there is definitely some issues you need to deal with. What you and Mr Berger have turned into is what the Pyschological community refers to as a Co-Dependant relationship which is very unhealthy for both of you. If this is really you I urge you to seek counseling for yourself because even if as you claim things are as you say an individual in a co-dependant relationship can have hidden issues after the relationship ends. Ive known a few people in similar situations including one fellow classmate in nursing school. Its more about retrospection and figuring out how things got as they did and how to avoid it in the future. A prime example of codependancy is a married couple, 1 is a ragin alchoholic the other is technically the enabler. THey love the person and keep hoping they will change and whatnot if they are supportive when in fact the enabler inadvertantly makes things worse.. I Hope you and your children can move pass this situation for all your sakes.

  • Guest28451 says:

    The Starnews is barely above WWAY and their tabloid mentality. They even admitted it was one of their reports who broke this story but the difference is the Starnews walked away from the article while WWAY chose to sink to a new low.. Trust me I wont get bored there are tons of other news sources online available besides tabloid trash reporting that passes for journalism, then again sadly most main streak media has gone that route. All for sensationalism and exploitation vs common decency and respect in reporting. I mean next thing you know WWAY will be reporting what Berger had for every meal and when he takes a crap and analyze why he wipes the way he does as a sign of his mental capacity. Yes Mr Berger has significant issues and I agree he probably needs to resign to focus on his own well being and health and get his life together but airing private emails in public is beyond acceptable. Id like to know who the person was in the NHC Govt on the payroll who leaked these emails and obviously went looking for these deliberately should be disciplined or terminated for his actions because there was no investigation on going or need to release these emails other then dirty politics or motivation for sensationalism of Mr Bergers situation.

  • Commonsensenotcommontoday says:

    Any e-mails sent to the county official address are on this server and open for viewing.

  • Guestfgxfgn says:

    HEY NOW! the graphics are pretty good!

    ….the rest though, is all true.

  • Kevin Wuzzardo says:

    Heather,

    Thanks for your message. We are glad to hear from you, as you are very hard to reach. As you mentioned one of our reporters called you a couple weeks ago between the two incidents involving you and Commissioner Berger, and this is the first we have heard back. I asked Scott Pickey, and he said he did not know of a voicemail from you, but he will check again in case he missed it. If so that is unfortunate, as we definitely would have liked to get your side of the story and any clarification. That’s why we’ve tried to talk with you several times in the past. I think the last time anyone at our station was able to reach you was after Mr. Berger’s arrest in June. At the time you said you were not ready to talk, but would let us know if you changed your mind. You then spent the next several days telling anyone who would listen that it was our fault and WPD’s for Mr. Berger’s problems that week.

    As far as clarifying our coverage of the incident two Fridays ago, if you look back at our story you’ll see that we only reported that police met you and Mr. Berger at your home after a meeting became heated, that no one was arrested and that the officers said they had explained the protective order process and you declined. I believe those other details you mentioned were in a story by another news outlet in town. We learned Thursday, of course, that you eventually did file a protective order. Sorry if we missed your call with that info earlier, though I must say I would be surprised you would call with information you had not shared publicly otherwise given your reluctance to talk with us in the past and the disparaging comments you’ve made publicly about us.

    Nevertheless we are always interested in the truth, and we would love to talk with you. We will extend to you the same offer we’ve made several times to Mr. Berger: you name the time and place and we’ll be there, or join us live in studio if you are concerned about the editing process. I think that is more than fair. I’m sure you have plenty to say, especially since Mr. Berger has made various claims about you in public, specifically about your mental health, that you clearly dispute.

    If you would like to talk further, please call our newsroom at (910) 763-0979 and ask for me or send me an e-mail at kwuzzardo@wwaytv3.com. The ball is in your court.

    Sincerely,
    Kevin Wuzzardo
    News Content Manager
    WWAY NewsChannel 3

  • Guest says:

    I HAVE watched WECT, and they bored me to tears. I guess I just can’t stomach Frances Weller. She’s about as exciting as watching water drip from your faucet into your sink….drip, drip, drip. About as irritating too.

    If you’re so offended by WWAY, don’t read or post on this forum. It’s that simple. You have a choice, so use it.

  • Guest says:

    No one leaked the emails to the public. They were on the county’s public domain server that is open to the public. It’s public emails that are checked on a regular basis by all the news media. That’s what makes this insane. Why would a news anchor email a county commissioner on a public domain server, knowing that it would be read and reported by all the other media? It’s not WWAY’s fault that a news anchor chose to use this very public server to exchange emails with a county commissioner…WWAY just reported this public information. Mr. Townsend could have saved himself and Mr. Berger a lot of grief by sending a private note instead of using a public server.

    If you don’t like WWAY, you shouldn’t come here either to read and post on their forum, but you know you won’t be able to stay away. The others are just too boring and you will soon lose interest.

  • Straight Shooter says:

    Straight shooting post, DITTO!

  • Brian says:

    Unemployment is earned – you pay in, and you’re entitled to collect if you meet the requirements. Even if you’re working, you’re not disqualified from collecting. Sure, your earnings offset your benefit, but you’re still eligible. Hate to see the truth distorted by ‘news’ outlets.

  • Guest Lee says:

    You’re right. It is earned…by working at least 6 months in a job and being laid off. So he could potentially not work for years and years, get a little job for 6 months, and then draw unemployment. Then get another job for 6 months, etc., etc.

    You’re not disqualified from collecting unemployment if you’re working, but it does offset your benefit. What I wonder is if Mr. Berger is reporting his current earnings to DC and if they are adjusting that benefit. Many people really know how to work the system.

  • Brian says:

    For all the bible-thumpers here in the bible belt, there sure is a LOT of interest in this hurtful gossip. Most of those who call themselves ‘christians’ are hypocrites.

  • Guest says:

    Exactly where can I go to view these emails? Can you be specific? I sure would like to read them.

  • Guest461 says:

    What He said, what SHE said and then…what REALLY happened!

  • Guest says:

    I agree. I’ve always found the truth to be midway of what two parties have said.

  • CM says:

    The comment that the father abandoned the children is totally false. He has 50/50 custody and is the only stabilizing influence in those childrens’ lives. He holds a steady job, is well put together and an all around decent man and a loving father. Unlike the other two characters in this sordid saga, he has no mental issues.

  • taxpayer says:

    As an employee, you pay nothing into the unemployment fund. That cost is born solely by the employer…not you. Have you ever seen a deduction from your paycheck for unemployment? No you haven’t. Provided you are a W-2 employee, you pay Federal, State, and FICA taxes…not unemployment taxes. So to say you’re entitled because you pay in…is false.

  • Burger Boy Redux says:

    I would have thought that WWAY would have been above this sort of tawdry stuff, folks. This news station needs some more theology and geometry, is what they need. Heck, the only reason i even look at their stuff is b/c of the good looking women on there.

  • Commonsensenotcommontoday says:

    You are hardly in a position to lecture WWAY on “tawdry” behavior, ol’ block in the eye.

  • Gramps1935 says:

    Unlike certain welfare disability sponges, Mr Berger worked hard, and won his seat. Its easy to throw roacks at a man when he’s down. Especilly when you ride the gravy train, on other psoples backs.

    Mr Townsend, and Mr Berger have had their share of rough times, but they get up, and carry on. They represent the sprit of so much of Wilmington. So try walking a mile in their shoes before you cast a stone.

  • Gramps1935 says:

    Your well written critical remarks prove you are anything but dumb, or innocent.

  • Guest20 says:

    Thank you for that information. I had no idea that employers paid unemployment and not taxpayers. Of course, I’m sure those same employers increase their prices to the taxpayers to compensate.

  • Guest20 says:

    Another sexist redneck. Just what we need.

  • Mike Federigni says:

    I used to live in Wilmington and now reside in SC. I must say, I can’t seem to stay away from ILM news and WWAY is reporting it like it’s never been told before! Call it gossip, etc., but who else has the kahunas to go above and beyond and dig deep into the lives of politicians, etc? It’s not WECT, or the StarNews. It’s WWAY. Folks this is what true journalism represents, period. Don’t blame WWAY or any news source for “sinking to a new low.” At the end of the day, Berger, Townsend, Blaylock, and whoever else is in the news made their beds. If they didn’t act up, they wouldn’t be in the news. I commend WWAY for TRUE journalism and reporting the REAL news. I can’t stay away from this website or the live feeds of the daily news. I’m freakin addicted to all this Berger mess and if nothing else, his life is what reality TV is all about. It’s not Keeping up with the Kardashains, Big Brother, etc…it’s Berger and whoever else seems to be newsworthy, and WWAY keeps reporting it.

    I love this station, and will always be loyal to them.

    **Imagine all the things we wouldn’t know if it weren’t for WWAY reporting it…look at it like that.”

    It’s beter to have more than enough information than to have very little or none at all. Kudos to you folks, and keep reporting the great news of Wilmington!

  • Guest Lee says:

    Yes, Mr. Berger did win his seat…..while drawing unemployment from Washington, DC, which he continued to draw even after being seated as a County Commissioner here. I hope DC investigators will bring charges against him for fraudulently obtaining taxpayer monies.

    Mr. Berger misrepresented himself as the ideal candidate. Voters took him at his word, and Mr. Berger took them for a ride, which is still ongoing.

    Will Rogers once said, “Live in such a way that you would not be ashamed to sell your parrot to the town gossip”. I shudder to think what Mr. Berger’s parrot would say.

  • taxpayer says:

    Unemployment premiums are based upon the employer’s total payroll…not sales/revenue. Sales have absolutely nothing to do with it.

  • Guest28451 says:

    I cant believe you would sink so bloody low as to post these emails. The tabloid mentality of your network has just lost any viewship in this household as far as anything other primetime programming possible. My wife and I used to watch WWAY3 for local news most of the time since we only have truly 2 11pm news stations in Wilmington (I just dont get into listening to Raleigh news on Ch 10) So I guess WECT has new watchers for their news broadcast. Im truly disgusted and cant believe what Ive witnessed. I agree Brian has some issues but for you to post these emails just makes you look like a bottom feeder news agency and Im sure many people will be disgusted by your voyeuristic intentions.. This crap I expect from TMZ, National Inquirer not a local news affiliate of a major network (ABC)

  • Ken says:

    WWAY hits a new all time low, you guys are truly the scum of the earth..

  • John says:

    This is just wrong, you have proven yourself to be my least respected news provider in the area. Shane on you and I do think you may be successfully sued for this.

  • Guest says:

    Too long; didn’t read

  • Commonsensenotcommontoday says:

    The two guys carried on this mutual love-fest of the broken-hearts on a server that is open for public viewing. The courts have never even hinted at a right to privacy in such circumstances.

  • WestSide4Eva says:

    Know what I’m sayin? Nothin’ wrong with a couple of G’s rappin’ ’bout they personal bidness!

  • Peyton Garrett says:

    Bob Townsend, Who would have thought. I know all of the people in Wallace are proud of You. I know your family is especially proud of You. What another idiot. Bob if this is true, You will need therapy, and a good attorney. Let’s see what this explanation becomes. A movie , at least a TV Movie is forthcoming.

  • Guest111111111 says:

    Way to go TMZ of Wilmington! Nothing like trying to get the lead on a story. Unfortunately, your competition is winning. It looks like they will score that all important “first interview”with brian. However, still love watching y’all!

  • Guest says:

    These are human beings who have just as much right to privacy as anyone else. Bob Townsend was giving moral support to a friend and he has every right to do so. Just because he’s in the public eye doesn’t mean he has no rights. We don’t own him or commissioner Berger. We don’t have the right to know every intimate detail of their lives and we certainly have no right to judge them. There isn’t anyone among us who hasn’t lost control of our emotions, had a dysfunctional relationship or questionable moments in our lives. Don’t hold anyone else up to higher standards then you hold your own self up to. Publishing these very private emails is reprehensible. This isn’t news. It’s tabloid fodder and cheap entertainment for people who have pitiful lives.

  • Guest says:

    WWAY is trash for posting this. I don’t care if this is a public server. Obviously sour grapes because of WECT being the better station. If I worked at WWAY I would be very embarrassed right now.
    Some intern whose job is to monitor this server probably got all tingly down his/her leg and ran to the editors office to rely the info and then the low life got all tingly as well and said, yeah post it without thinking what a low life he would make his station look like.

    WWAY Enquirer – Because we have too.

  • Commonsensenotcommontoday says:

    ….exchanging e-mails on a county server that is open for public viewing.

  • CHB says:

    ALL OF THE FOLLOWING IS OFF THE RECORD WWAY AND I DO NOT GIVE YOU PERMISSION TO USE IT!!!! : I wanted to make a few things clear. First of all, I am Heather Blaylock, Brian Berger’s ex-girlfriend. I have tried to keep myself out of the media in order to protect my children from any exposure and to protect my job. It has been very difficult reading all the lies WWAY has written about me but this article is something I cannot just ignore for it creates severe difficulties in my life. Of all the articles WWAY has run mentioning me, they only once tried to contact me for any clarity or comment and that was almost two weeks ago. They never felt the need to let me know anything was appearing on their website. When they ran the article about last Friday night they stated that I had invited Brian to my home to watch movies. That was a lie. Brian and I met at the mall so we could discuss me getting some personal belongings out of his home. When I got in my car to drive home, Brian grabbed my steering wheel so I could not leave and began screaming and crying about how he could not let me go. This made my children begin to cry. He kept asking to see me later to watch a movie. After a few minutes of asking him to go away, and after telling him no, and pointing out how he was only upsetting my children, I finally told him I would meet him to watch a movie at my apartment. I never intended to and just said that so he would get out of my car and I could get my children away from a distructive situation. I even told the police that Friday night. I never met with him at my home. WWAY failed to report the story this way. I also never declined a protection order. That was another lie. The police told me Friday night I should get one and I asked them how I could. They said I had to go to the Clerk of Court and get one but since it was the start of Labor Day weekend, I would have to wait till Tuesday to get one. I said fine and that was that. I never declined. I even left a voicemail to Scott Pickey explaining this and yet they still ran another article later saying I declined the order. Finally, I have never been diagnosed with any disorder of any kind. Anyone who knows me knows I am a very rational person who thinks things through before I act. My biggest flaw was that I fell in love with Brian. He was not always like this. We had been together two and a half years (well before he even thought about running for office) and he was not the person then that he is now. He is so desperate to pin the blame on someone else that he will throw anyone under the bus: the police dept, the other commissioners, and now me. The fact he claimed I had a disorder is a complete lie and he is just burning the few bridges he still had left. I still wish for him to get help, but I wish to god he had not dragged me and my children down with him. All I ever wanted was a quiet and peaceful life and he has made that impossible. I tried to help him so many times and he would just not accept it. While I wish to remain out of the media, I needed those reading the above lies to learn the truth. These lies Brian has spread are devastating to me, professionally, socially, and emotionally. I don’t understand why people would believe a man who pretended to be committing suicide just to get the attention he required and who tried to tarnish the WPD’s name. I will not be speaking to the media about all that has occured because I wish to move on with my life, but when libel is taking place, I need to do something to defend myself, for my sake and my children’s. Thank you all for the time you took to read this. I pray Brian gets the help he needs before he does not have a friend in the world.

  • Guest says:

    WWAY, I am, quite frankly, disgusted by this article. This is none of your business. WECT is a far superior than WWAY, and I feel that this article is an attack on your opponent. You put this article up hoping to draw viewers to your bad anchors and bad graphics, but in reality, you have turned many people away. I feel an apology needs to made because of this article. Yea, we live in a culture where morality is absent, but people know when things are just wrong. This is a perfect of example. This is dirty, and I will not be watching WWAY anytime soon.

  • kirk lohr says:

    Anchor boy meets Dumbo! Why don’t both you boys just cry me a river! Geez louise–grow up and deal with your stuff! Take some responsiblity for your your words and actions. And if you can’t, don’t be predisposed to put yourselves in positions to be judged and scrutinized!

  • Guest says:

    Yeah, your mistake would be expecting them to act like something other than TMZ-WILM (or the New York Post)

  • Chelle says:

    I just found out i have bpd ….now sothe many horrible life choices make sense …my life is a disaster at the moment…I watch you every day Bob…you have everything together..Brian &I Heather ..I totally very small understand your pain …Mr Bob T please email me..I could use some kind words … God Bless you

  • Commonsensenotcommontoday says:

    can give you a link. I only know that open access is required by state law.

  • Guest Page Dotres says:

    Mr. Townsend indicated that he *has* dealt with his “stuff” and is offering Mr. Berger sound advice in a very compassionate way.

    I’m not sure why that would bother you so.

  • Guest2020 says:

    Where does it say that it was on the county server?

  • Guest says:

    WWAY has just sunk to the lowest of the low. What do you expect to get out of this article other then hurting people? Journalist integrity is obviously not something you believe in. It is things like this that keep me from watching news on a network that has good programing outside their news. Enjoy the bottom WWAY, say hi to Rupert while you are down there. Vial news at it’s best!

  • Guest says:

    This is newsworthy for two main reasons: #1 Brian is an elected official and #2 Bob has requested that the public trust him because of his chosen profession.
    Because both are intelligent men that must have known that the release of this email was fair game. If Bob is married or was married when the “nonrelationship” took place, that says something about his character and integrity. Otherwise, I think as I did previously that he is a fine news anchor who is well respected. I think that his writing of the letter may have shed light on mental illness for this community. There are many people who have full time jobs and are gainfully employed who are mentally ill. Mental illness or disorders is not a crime. Good luck to them both and thanks to WWAY for not being fearful to tackle the hard questions and displaying a dichotonomy of the issues. You are doing a great job and finally bringing to this community what we haven’t seen before.

  • Guest says:

    Aside from the email snooping,it’s disconcerting that Mr. Townsend extends such empathy and emotional sharing with Mr. Berger while totally missing the fact that there are several TRUE victims that are overlooked and more worthy of his attention.The ex-GF has been as humiliated as Berger;been the victim of his emotional/physical abuse;has had personal medical diagnostic accusations(by him)disclosed w/o her permission-the list goes on..He is older than her and more experienced and has knowingly taken advantage of her,along with her children to meet his demands for affection.He declares love for her,when it’s actually obsession w/ a big dose of selfishness.I’d bet the farm that his mental fraility list is a mile longer than the ex-Gf,anyday of the week.Finally-I believe Mr. Townsend made a mistake in contacting this man,due to his afilliation w/ WECT and the fact that there are/should be plenty of less-risky individuals to emote your past personal disappointments with.Mr. Townsend needs to keep seeing his wonderful doctor.

  • GuestLee says:

    So you have one disturbed individual (Bob) who is going to a shrink, telling another guy (Brian) that he will give him the name of his shrink so they can bond together. Isn’t this kind of like the blind leading the blind? Bob, you’re not helping Brian by feeding into his delusions. You’re only making things worse. Support, yes, but to continue to feed his delusion that he can still be an effective county commissioner is just wrong.

    I feel sorry for both these guys, they have serious heartache in their lives, but Brian is a county commissioner, who needs to be able to make stable and solid decisions because of his position. He is not able to do that at this point in his life. He needs to resign, go to Bob’s shrink, and get his mental issues under control. He cannot effectively lead the citizens of New Hanover County.

  • Guest says:

    If that’s the way you really feel, I would also like to suggest you stop reading this forum, sponsored by WWAY, and stop posting on this forum. After all, if you’re not going to watch WWAY, why comment on their forums, right? So long.

  • Guest says:

    If it offends you so much, stop reading and posting (here) on their forum. They’re not forcing you to read or post anything. Kinda like TV…if you don’t like it, flip the channel. I bet it won’t be long before you’re back here again. WECT and Star News are far too tame in their reporting. You’ll get bored quickly.

  • Guest says:

    Then quit reading and posting (here) on their forum. Go to Star News and WECT. I betcha you’ll be back here in no time because the other ones are b-o-r-i-n-g.

  • Guest says:

    If you’re so offended, stop reading and posting (here) on their forum. Get bored out of your mind by only reading and posting on WECT and Star News. It won’t take long before you’ll be back here again, I guarantee it!

  • Guest says:

    I’ve seen pictures of Brian’s ex-girlfriend. What amazes me is why she would give Brian the time of day.

    Look at Brian on the day of his press conference. He’s unshaven, hair that looks like he stuck his finger in a light socket, wrinkled clothes, wild looking eyes darting back and forth, and stumbling over his words barely able to form a sentence.

    All I can think of is she saw him as being a big shot in town because of his being a county commissioner. It certainly wasn’t for money because he doesn’t have any (although he does have the extra unemployment money from DC). May he did to her what he did to us – misrepresented himself as something he’s not.

  • C-Man says:

    WWAY news department, you should be ashamed of yourselves. It is a far stretch to call yourselves a news department. Who’s your next anchor going to be, Jerry Springer?

  • GuestLee says:

    It bothers ME because Brian is an elected official and Bob is a TV news anchor.

    (1) Is Bob playing to Brian’s emotions to just get a good news story? To get Brian to spill his guts and then tell all in an “exclusive”?

    (2) Support is one thing, but Bob encouraging Brian to continue as a county commissioner is irresponsible. He crossed the line.

    (3) Brian is not an effective county commissioner or leader at this point in time. He has a mental illness, and Bob knows he does because he is offering his own shrink to Brian.

    (4) Who leaked these emails to the public? Were they on the public domain website where news media has access to them? If so, why do that when you know other media can read them? That doesn’t make sense unless you want to fan the flames and be part of the news story.

    We now know that both of these individuals have very poor judgement. That’s dangerous for a news anchor and even more dangerous for an elected official.

  • Guest says:

    Where is this “county server that is open for public viewing”? I would like to go there and check it out. Or is it only open to new media?

  • Guest says:

    Totally agree!!

  • Beth says:

    This was disclosed NOT by her, but by BRIAN. THerefore she didn’t put out anything on a public server. For that, Brian and WWAY should both be ashamed.

    WWAY could have blacked out the part of this lady’s alledged diagnoses. They CHOSE not to because they want to milk this email for all of its worth. Therefore in my mind they broke HIPPA laws right and left. While BRIAN had no right to tell something like that, at the same time WWAY had no right either. At the very least they could have blacked it out. Quite frankly this alledged diagnosis is no one’s business. What if it is or not true? This poor lady is going to hve a hell of time finding a job in the future now should she need it.

  • for the record says:

    I believe that Heather Blaylock could have easily created all of this chaos in hopes to get herself some much needed attention (in her eyes). She released her text messages to the media in hopes of making herself look like a victim. I am of the opinion that she is a Drama queen, who’s playing the single Mom role, not like a champion but like a cry baby…..what a pityful example of a single Mom, the good one’s are strong and protect their children from all of this non sense. Grow up Girl and quit playing Victim!!!!!!! You were hoping to get lucky with someone of influence ( so you thought) so you could live the highlife. Pay attention to your children and stop all your drama. Most people create their own problems and then expect everyone else to pick up the pieces, too bad people can’t take responsibility for their actions.

  • Commonsensenotcommontoday says:

    Brian Berger is not restricted by HIPAA. WWAY is not restricted by HIPAA.

    Why don’t you take the time to find out what covered entities HIPAA does restrict?

    * Health care providers
    * Health plans
    * Health care clearinghouses

  • he Beth says:

    Who gave WWAY the right to splash that all over the internet, true or not? If you think it isn’t a big deal why don’t you list your illnesses? I am waiting.

  • brendle99 says:

    I urge you to rethink your wording of “POOR LADY,” who ever said Heather is poor. Is that not a cry from you to give sympathy to her? Does she require our sympathy? I think not.
    She started this whole mess by not looking before she leap in love with Brian. Heather has a responsibility to her children not to jump in the sheets with an inappropriate person.
    She also is the person who cried foul to the cops. That got this ball rolling. In the end she will, as she does now, look like a ‘Poor Me’ woman on her pity pot.
    If the law worked properly Heather would be charged with endangering the welfare of a child, because of her careless morals and movements.
    I don’t feel sorry for her. She is a spoiled woman and a trouble maker.

  • Guest says:

    You are exactly right about her responsibility to her children to not connect with an inappropriate person. Perhaps she could do better if she stopped finding all of her men on Craig’s List, which is where she “met” Brian, and the others before him. What I don’t get is why she stayed with him after the January episode that became so public (if she doesn’t want media attention, as she claims), and why she would subject her boys to living without heat in that house; and then he takes away the space heaters as “punishment” for a 5 and 3 year old so that it’s so cold that you can see your breath? And, still, she stayed for months??? WHY would she subject her children to life with this man? Obviously, she cared more about her relationship with him than she did her boys’ welfare. I’ve known her since she came to UNCW. She is a totally self-absorbed person; her world is all about Heather & being the center of attention and ALWAYS the victim. Their father should have the children 100% of the time, not just 50/50.

  • KB says:

    I too have known Heather since she arrived at UNCW (she dated a close friend of mine) and I am very sad to see that nothing has changed. Her life seemed to be an unending litany of tragedy and I felt very sympathetic towards her until I realized that most of these tragedies were self-inflicted. I normally wouldn’t bring such information up, but the children are being very negatively impacted by her decisions. They deserve a stable and safe environment, which can only be provided by the father. Furthermore, the father has been falsely accused of abandoning the children when the custody is 50/50, and frankly, should be 100% with him. I hope that the two troubled individuals involved in this situation admit they have issues, seek help for those issues, and cease to interact with one another. It is quite a shame that this had to end up in the media (and I dislike WWAY’s histronic and tabloidesque tone), but Berger brought this on himself and dragged Heather into this.

  • Guest says:

    I agree wholeheartedly. Bob Townsend is a news reporter. Amazing how he’s willing to insert himself into the story to get the scoop.

  • RSimmons says:

    but it looks to me like Bob Townsend is setting Berger up. Bob is trying to get Berger’s confidence and trust so when Berger completely melts down and does something crazy, good ole Bob will lead the 6 o’clock bleed with his big story! Bob has been watching too many reruns of “Lou Grant”.

  • beth says:

    So now you are not only going after Brian Berger, but the competition?That’s low. You have never had personal issues? You must live in some utopian fairy tale where everyone is happy and sings koom by ya. I hope you get sued for displaying protected health information. Just because you can doesn’t make it right.

  • Guest99x says:

    Wow, just when I thought that we reached the lowest point of venal political backstabbing, this “news item” gets released.

    Here’s a solution. Let’s give Brian a 30 day paid leave from his commission seat and bring in Jerry Springer to teach sensitivity.

  • Commonsensenotcommontoday says:

    You have absolutely no idea what you’re talking about, do you? When a subject VOLUNTEERS personal information on an e-mail server that is open for public viewing, you think that is somehow “protected?”

    BTW, Beth – everyone has trials and tribulations in their life. The key is that you manage them and control them as best you can. You don’t trip off line and become a raving loon.

  • Peggy says:

    I feel these emails were meant to be private between two adults with compassion due to bing in similar situations. What was gained from the person who had the emails published? BORDERLINE PERSONALITY is not a simple thing to live with and we all have our own trials and tribulations that we must face. I hope the publisher of this information will have to walk a mile in the shoes of a person with borderline personality disorder so they can feel the world crashing around them as they are picking up the pieces of their own broken heart.

  • Guest1118 says:

    OMG, just when I think y’all can’t sink any lower you do. I’ve never been a big fan of Bob T. but I AM NOW. I’ve found myself watching WECT at 6 more often even though I like Chris and Jerry on your station.

    Hey Scott, why don’t y’all go up to Bladen and cover a REAL scandal instead of obsessing over Brian?

  • GuestBBBT says:

    Hey people – feel sorry for these two guys all you want. The point is, it’s VERY inappropriate and unprofessional for a reporter / anchor / journalist to have this kind of conversation with a politician, especially when it’s saved for all of the world to see.

    How can you take Mr. Townsend seriously now if he ever interviews Mr. Berger? How can you take WECT seriously when they interview ANYONE now?

    It’s okay for people in TV news and at the newspaper to have friendships with people in powerful positions, but they also have to know where the line is, and remember they may have to report on these people too.

  • Guest says:

    Brian Berger is a classless disturbing individual! I’m going to go ahead and preface my comments by saying I know all parties involved here personally. I know Brian, I know Heather, I know both the boys and I know THEIR FATHER! Yes, that’s right, you read it here first folks. I know their father who, contrary to what sad stories Brian uses to try and make himself look better, WAS THE FIRST MAN THEY CALLED DAD! Not Brian. It absolutely disgusts me that this man is using these two innocent children to create a sob story for himself that makes him look better. These boys have a wonderful father that they see every other week as Heather and their father have 50/50 custody. HE NEVER ABANDONED THEM!!! Brian is the one that had had not one but TWO DSS cases opened against him since January regarding these boys! The boys weren’t even allowed to be anywhere near him per DSS as they felt Brian was unsafe. And as for the boys crying and all that nonsense? I have shared a car with those two kids and have heard myself stories about Brian that have had me on the phone with their mother almost in tears! (Who takes away space heaters from a 5 and 3 year old as punishment and leaves the house so cold you can see your breath? A sick man that’s who, Brian.) Brian Berger blames everyone for his current state but himself. It’s the commissioners, its the police, its Heather, its always someone other than him. Reading this and knowing what Brian tells people to try and pull on their heartstrings and make himself look better makes me want to cry. This man should be in a padded room, not in a position of any power.

  • Chris says:

    What Mr. Townsend does off the air is his own business. Nowhere does it state that he is representing WECT or anyone else other than…Bob Townsend. I agree with the others who posted…that was pretty low.

  • Guest says:

    there is only one thing that comes to my mind mr. article writer…..do unto others…….

  • Commonsensenotcommontoday says:

    ….is more common than I realized.

    Both of you boys need to realize that women are like buses – there’s another one coming along in fifteen minutes.

    (Same thing goes for men, ladies. When they walk out, lock the door and get on with your life. There’s no bigger or worse waste of time than pining for lost love. Once it’s gone, it’s gone.)

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