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Parents locked out of of daughter's graduation

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WILMINGTON, NC (WWAY) -- It was a packed house inside the Schwartz Center Friday for CFCC's graduation. Apparently a little too packed.

In an email, to WWAY Marsha Remsynder shares her story.

"How horrible for families who have spent money, time, sweat, and tears to get their graduate through school, only to be denied the only tangible reward they will ever receive," she wrote.

Remsynder wanted to bring light to the issue because she says there were apparently dozens locked out from the ceremony.

"What should have been one of the pinnacle achievements of a lifetime became tarnished with the huge disappointment of missing it. It was all handled very badly," she wrote

CFCC spokesman David Hardin responded in an e-mail.

"College officials will be looking into this matter immediately and will make adjustments to prevent this situation from occurring in the future," he said.

CFCC says they broadcast the graduation in the lobby, but Remsynder says the area was so full only those in the front could see the TV.

FULL EMAIL:

"My family was excited to attend graduation ceremonies at CFCC yesterday. We got there early and got our seats. My husband takes medication and we sent our son out to see if he could buy a bottle of water. We waited... and waited... he never came back. I went to find him and was told by a lady at the door that, if I left, I would not be allowed back in. I told her I was just going to find my son, who went for water, and that he already had a seat waiting for him. She didn't budge. When I asked why he was not allowed back in she said, " If I let him in I'd have to let everyone in." Turns out there were dozens of families who had come to the ceremony who were turned away at the door. Locked out. My son, who was there early, missed our daughter's graduation, as did my husband, who went out to be with him. By the way, he was not informed that he would not be allowed to return.
How horrible for families who have spent money, time, sweat, and tears to get their graduate through school, only to be denied the only tangible reward they will ever receive.
It was all handled badly. Hundreds of CFCC teachers took up over half the floor of the Swartz Center, leaving no room for family seating.
There was nothing televised outside the "locked" doors, they didn't even have audio for the families. They could only wait for the graduates to exit.
To top it off, they had kick-your-butt, control-freak, Rambo wannabes at the doors to prevent anyone from re-entering the auditorium.
Please don't get me wrong, I'm not talking of them preventing gate crashing maniacs from entering or re-entering. Is your child making noise and you, as a responsible parent, are removing him in consideration of the others in attendance? Well, you can't. Why? You won't be able to return to your family.
Diapers need changing? Better do it right there!
Am I exaggerating? Absolutely NOT! Take a poll. Get other people's input. There were enough irate parents locked out to back me up.
What should have been one of the pinnacle achievements of a lifetime became tarnished with the huge disappointment of missing it. It was all handled very badly. Overhearing two of the leaders in charge congratulating each other on having, "another one done", prompted me to bring this massive problem to light.. Can they really be that obtuse?
Possible fixes: Have students vote for 1-2 teachers to represent each area represented so there's more room for families. Give out tickets so stubs can be used for return-to-seats. Have it in a larger auditorium! Finally, this isn't the first and won't be the last, how about putting a little more thought into it so this doesn't happen in the future?
Respectfully,
Marsha Remsnyder"

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What else would you expect

What else would you expect by a city ran by Saffo and company, they have already squeezed all the money out of those family's that they can, so kick them to the curb!

This is nothing new. Every

This is nothing new. Every year there are parents and family members trying to peek through windows at Cape Fear to watch loved ones graduate. My wife graduated last year and my daughter and I had to stand outside and luckily found a side window to look through. Same thing 10 years ago when my sister graduated. I again gave up my seat so that my grandparents would have half a seat each and I went and stood outside. I've missed my sisters and wife's graduation because the gym is too small and now there is a large convention center right across the street that would fit everyone!!

Tickets

I agree that their should be tickets for events like this. Each student gets a certain number. They can decide who they want to be there. I find it amazing that each year, people try to bring their aunts, uncles, cousins, the cousin's children, etc and then some parents miss out because of lack of seating.

Perhaps they

could hold the ceremony @ Saffo's Folly aka the Convention Center.

Possibly larger seating capacity.

Definitely the ability to telecast the event to other rooms.

Bolsters the numbers for The Folly.

I agree that parents and

I agree that parents and some family members should have priority seating privileges over teachers and staff. Not saying, however that every aunt, uncle and cousin should displace other parents. Mom and Dad should be guaranteed seats.

This is found to be very

This is found to be very true at every graduation. I have graduated from this college twice so far and it's been that packed to if you leave no return. My sister and her children came from miles away they stepped out for a second and was denied to reenter. I believe the should start doing tickets too so that way it will be enough seats for all families. Maybe if they won't do tickets have an outdoor graduation with plenty of seats or some may stand to watch their loved ones on that big day.

graduated from this college twice

Wow,"I have graduated from this college twice", didn't know you could get a Master Degree at CFCC.

Also, I guess english wasn't you best subject was it?

You're the only one who

You're the only one who mentioned a "Master Degree". Believe it or not, it is possible to obtain more than one Associate's degree. Also, you should probably strive for perfection in your grammar if you are going to criticize someone else's.

Wow,"I have graduated from

Wow,"I have graduated from this college twice", didn't know you could get a Master Degree at CFCC.

Also, I guess english wasn't you best subject was it?

JJ:

Everyone has their strengths and weaknesses. Guess what yours is? I will give you a hint, it starts with a and ends with hole.

For your information I went

For your information I went for two different degrees at this college and all English classes I took there I made very high A's so excuse my typo was using my phone. Check my grades if you like all good in my books never Bern a dummy. So if you must know your facts before your stuip a..comments.

English.

English.