Boiling Spring Lakes firefighter makes plea deal

It's funny that these 2 men were charged with the same crime but one pulls 30days and the other gets 4 and a half years. The other strange thing is that the one who pulled 30days had evidence against him and the other didn't. I wonder who the one who got so much time pissed off, it must have been someone pretty high up.

I have said this once and I will say it again. At what point are we going to make these girls/guys who put out to be older then they really are accountable? I believe the cop was wrong on so many levels but I also believe this is a responsibility that should be shared by both parties. I read this 14yr old tried killing herself because she was depressed over what happened with the cop, was this before or after her parents found out she had been sleeping with older men? She didn't seem depressed when it happened with the fireman but if her parents would have found out right after that happened he would be the one serving major time. How many times has this already happened that no one knows about but her? and how many lives is she going to ruin along the way?

I wish that those of you who are so quick to judge would get all of the facts and really think about what you are saying before you speak. Do you really think that it is fair to compare a 19 year old boy to a 36 year old man. There is NO prof that he had sex with this girl. She is the only one who says that they did. Also, she told people that she was 16 and had an I.D. that said she was. When he found out that she was 14, he stopped talking to her and that is when she decided to get even. Unfortunately, this boy was being used as a pawn in a larger case by our court system. I am very angry about what this girls family and the courts have done to this young mans life.

It makes me sick to see things like this happen. I have spent my entire adult life in public service and I love what I do. I don't know what started the relationship between him and this kid but HE should have known better. She is 14. Ignorance of age is not a defense. It just seems that more and more, firefighters, police officers and EMS personnel are taking a hit for a select few idiots. This guy was 19 or 20 when he did what he did and Luke Stidham was 36. What are they thinking? Thinking with the wrong end. I see young girls everyday that, one do not look their age and 2, dont dress their age. I blame the parents of this girl as much as the 2 guys sitting in jail. If the parents were more involved and kept her on a shorter leash, this would not have happened. The really sad part is all the victims left in the wake from all 3 families.

From what I know this young lady is a very troubled person. These problems dont start with these two men. This girl has no sense of boundries and from what I hear she defies her parents all the time.No one has any control over her.I couldnt agree more with the person who said DSS should have been involved. I personally think not only should her mother and father be held accountable but so should she. At 14 you know exactly what you are doing. These men were being men when they spent their time with her, I dont agree with the way they were punished they both should have gotten the same amount of time. However the police officer should be beat... he has kids of his own. I hope he dosent have a little girl, how would he feel if some 30year old laid down woth his little girl? Anyway like I said it didnt start here there were problems way before this. Her mom and dad need to step up to the plate and no they arent doing their best if their child is in the news for this. They are failing as parents and this girls behavior just showes it.

of whether she was a willing participant or not; where were her parents? Why was she allowed supervision, apparently so liberal, she was in situations she should not have been. By no means am I condoning the actions of either gentleman involved. But Social Services should be involved to ensure this youth is not involved in a third incident. After all, the Police and Fire Departments have been involved; is there another Department for her to visit> I can imagine there have been or will be some stern lectures to the serving members of each department. Why not call the parents to task as well? For sure and certain, Aunt Bea would have been on top of this young lady's whereabouts in Mayberry had Andy been blessed with a daughter.

Yeah, both the former cop and now this firefighter were in the wrong. They should have known better than to mess with a 14 year old. But at the same time it sounds to me like this 14 year old like getting attention from older men and having sex with them, but when they stop giving her the attention she rats them out.

If a teen suddenly withdraws from family life, or if they've become more secretive, defensive, or aggressive when you try to talk about it, it's a good indication that your teen is sexually active. On the flip side, some teens (particularly girls) may start dressing inappropriately and clearly crossing the boundaries of acceptable behavior in public. The real danger is that a sexually active teen is more likely to start drinking, smoking, and using drugs. Any sign of these related activities should alert you to the possibility that your teen is sexually active.

Sounds to me like we have a case of a Girl who knew what she was doing and likes attention from Grown men.....Don't get me wrong it is not okay for these grown men to be sleeping with an underage girl. I just think that she new that she could have her cake and eat it to...meaning she would always be the victim even though concensual sex. I also think the law is very ridiculous that one person would get 6 years in prison for this and another would get 30 days in jail and probation! I also don't think if she wanted to have sex with the police officer it should be considered rape! Rape is when you are forced to have intercourse against your will, correct? I think her parents should have had more of an influence in her life and her wearabouts....I am a 24 year old female and when a female is sexually active there are signs that you can watch for and be alert, because I am sure this was not happening in broad daylight!

Is this the same teenager that another person is serving 20 years in prison for having a relationship with? Something is wrong with our system, or perhaps this teenager.