Let me tell you I have done both and the stay at home mom is the hardest. I think it shouldn't be looked down on either way. Black or white, mothers, You make a choice. If you can stay home in this day and time and work live off one income more power to you.but, if you choice to work outside the home than do that. Keep you home problems outside the work place. I get very sick of hearing I have to have off (holidays) because I have kids. Well the folks that don't have kids would like it off also. Just because you have kids don't give you first choice. Remember this is your choice.