“He comes over sometimes and talks with the family and mom and the kids and he's just a good guy,” she said. She just found out the nice man next door is a registered sex offender. "I didn't really have a problem with the kids going over there and visiting him. But now, it'll be a little different," said Benbow. What changed? Is he suddenly NOT a nice guy? If he was a murderer would he be a nice guy? They would never know. The murderer served his time and the sex offender lives in fear and shame for the rest of his life.