First off, I'm quite certain it doesn't cause you physical harm every time your name is pronounced incorrectly. No matter how you feel when someone mispronounces your name, you come off as pretentious when you make a big deal about it. It's just a name.
Secondly, how dare you call any one in the service "idiots" or "disrespectful". They have fought and continue to fight for the right for you to be as rude as you are. Regardless of their intelligence level, they are American heros, and I doubt they have time to care about the correct pronunciation of anything.
I am proud to have missed my mother for 10 birthdays, 3 Christmases, and countless other family moments, so that you can sit here and gripe about the importance of the correct/incorrect pronunciation of a name. You are surely welcome.
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