Jarrell made the decision to have a child within the relationship and now she is basically saying that the relationship wasn't "real" because she feels that she may be able to skirt around the laws to serve her own selfish purpose. The relationship was real enough to bring a child into the world so it should be real enough to recognize that both persons involved are true parents. What an insult Jarrell is to other same-sex couples that are raising children! If the gay community expects to gain any ground then we have to take responsibility and hold ourselves to the same standards as heterosexual couples. The love for BOTH parents is real!