We all like to think that even if we are spiritual that we inspire other people bu the truth is we cannot change people who are not willing to change. They need to find their own inspiration for change. Soemtimes we need to experience pain in able to change. This was the case for me, when I lost my husband because of cancer. I wanted to move on and being with the people I am with today really did heal the broken pieces in me. I learned to forgive myself and to be happy again, I know this is what my husband would wanted for me, althought I am missing him everyday and still trying to keep myself from crying at night. It has been a year though and they said it is only natural that I am still mourning. Thank you all.