I realize these posts are a couple of months old, but I had to voice my opinion like everyone else on here. This is to the educator that addressed her post to Anne:
Honestly, the way you even started out replying to this page is disappointing; your lack of etiquette and your sarcastic comment only proves the theory that parents AND educators are responsible for the safety and punishment of our children. Your post even sounds like you may be one of the teachers that bully kids themselves (see website below *), that may be why you are taking the subject so lightly.
Bullying is defined in Wikipedia as " a form of abuse. It involves repeated acts over time attempting to create or enforce one person's (or group's) power over another person (or group) , thus an "imbalance of power". The "imbalance of power" may be social power and/or physical power. The victim of bullying is sometimes referred to as a target. Bullying types of behavior are often rooted in a would-be bully's inability to empathize with those whom he or she would target.Bullying consists of three basic types of abuse – emotional, verbal and physical. It typically involves subtle methods of coercion such as intimidation."
It is defined in Merriam Websters dictionary as "1: to treat abusively 2: to affect by means of force or coercion".
This is how olweus.org defines it "1. Bullying is aggressive behavior that involves unwanted, negative actions.2. Bullying involves a pattern of behavior repeated over time.3. Bullying involves an imbalance of power or strength"; and this is what it lists as types of bullying "1. Verbal bullying including derogatory comments and bad names2. Bullying through social exclusion or isolation 3. Physical bullying such as hitting, kicking, shoving, and spitting 4. Bullying through lies and false rumors 5. Having money or other things taken or damaged by students who bully 6. Being threatened or being forced to do things by students who bully 7. Racial bullying 8. Sexual bullying 9. Cyber bullying (via cell phone or Internet)". Here are some others:
The Hyperdictionary: http://www.hyperdictionary.com/search.aspx?define=bullying
1. the act of intimidating a weaker person to make them do something
2. noisily domineering; tending to browbeat others
(bullies) a person who hurts, frightens or torments weaker or smaller people.
1. to act like a bully towards someone; to threaten or persecute them.
2. (usually bully someone into something) to force them to do something they do not want to do.
MSN Encarta: http://encarta.msn.com/encnet/features/dictionary/DictionaryResults.aspx...
intimidation of weaker person: the process of intimidating or mistreating someone weaker or in a more vulnerable situation.
*There are also teachers that bully in more subtle ways; basically "an aggressive act exhibited by an authority figure." The following website tells about ways a student can bully a student or a teacher can bully a student because of the "imbalance of power" (the same imbalance of power that you are convinced hardly ever occurs). http://www.melissainstitute.org/documents/BULLYING.pdf
So i will have to agree that there is a lack of information but it seems like the educators, not the parents, are the ones that are misinformed. And the biggest reason that people get stirred up and angry at the educational system is because of educators, much like yourself, that don't seem to care too much about the well being of our children, and have this attitude that we, as parents, are expecting too much out of you. You chose the path you wanted to take, went to school for it, and are now doing it. The hostility you represent in your post not only seems like you could care less about the kids, but that you have chosen the wrong profession. Maybe it is you, and the educators that share in your feelings, that should stay at home, and not the kids; and also keep in mind that the parents of those "non-bullied" children are playing a role in paying your salary every year, just like the bullies' parents are.
Seeing as you are signed in as guest, I only hope that my children are not in your care each day; and it is probably good that you did not state the school you represent-since you have little knowledge of this subject, it would more than likely be an embarrassment to the school system, and those who attend, to know that one of their trusted educators feels like bullying is not as serious as everyone is making it.
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