Reading the posts from everyone has really surprised me. I think that first I would like to send my sympathies out to the family who lost a child. That means to the family who lost their daughter due to death and to the family of the child that is behind bars. Unfortunately, when you bring a knife to a fist fight - its not fair and someone has to reap the consequences of their actions.

To the family and friends that support "Ken", who is in jail a bit of advise: Do not critize the family that just lost their child. She is never coming back. Try to practice non-violence. And thirdly, you are doing your friend "Ken" a big disservice. If she has to go to trial and the prosecutors ask the parents for their advice- the parents may remember the words that you speak now. Perhaps if you find it in your heart to be apologetic and sympathetic while still loving your friend; the family may be empathic with "Ken's" family and not want them to be away from their child for too long.

You never know what God has in store. Build up your community instead of tearing it down. I will pray for you all.