First it's an American flag, and then it's some tacky banner bought at WalMart to flutter in front of the house.
The HOA is correct in standing its ground on this issue. Too many flags and banners create a chaotic and distracting environment in a residential neighborhood. They distract from the calming greenery of trees, shrubs, and grass.
The mother can easily honor her son in other ways inside her home, or by wearing a patriotic pin--there are dozens of ways to honor him without breaking HOA rules.
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