Ms Blaylock,
I hate to point out but 1st off there is definitely some issues you need to deal with. What you and Mr Berger have turned into is what the Pyschological community refers to as a Co-Dependant relationship which is very unhealthy for both of you. If this is really you I urge you to seek counseling for yourself because even if as you claim things are as you say an individual in a co-dependant relationship can have hidden issues after the relationship ends. Ive known a few people in similar situations including one fellow classmate in nursing school. Its more about retrospection and figuring out how things got as they did and how to avoid it in the future. A prime example of codependancy is a married couple, 1 is a ragin alchoholic the other is technically the enabler. THey love the person and keep hoping they will change and whatnot if they are supportive when in fact the enabler inadvertantly makes things worse.. I Hope you and your children can move pass this situation for all your sakes.