If she is not abiding by the rules then she needs to be called on the carpet for it. If she does not meet the legal definition of what a New Hanover County resident is, then she is not eligible to serve as a County Commissioner. If she doesn't meet the NH County Board of Elections' requirements for voter registration, then she doesn't need to be registered in NH County. If her children do not reside in New Hanover County then they shouldn't be allowed to go to school there.
It seems to me that regardless of the motives, that if the truth has come out it doesn't matter that much who started it.
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