I mean no disrespect to the departed. You evidently knew one side of his personna. For those who did not know him; had never met him, the only knowledge they could have now is his record, which is cloudy.
Having said that, it is unfortunate others do not consider the feelings of the survivors.
On another note, it is unfortunate 2 individuals had to die in part due to a woman's inability to remain loyal to her new husband or to be honest with both; make a choice; and move on with life. From reports, she did neither and allowed her husband to remain in the dark. Whether your friend knew she was married is something only she knows now.
To lose a life defending your spouse or loved ones is commendable and heroic. To lose your life over a jilted or spurned spouse is sad.
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