adoptionangel, it would be really great if the two families could come together for the best interest of the child and work something out. I'm sure the sister was ripped into little pieces losing her baby sister and god knows what else she lost in the course of that trauma. I can empathize with her wanting to maintain whatever shred of family she has left. Keep in mind, it wasn't her fault the baby was taken, and at that time there was probably no recourse for her to take the baby then. So the fact that the state gave the child to strangers and left her there for two years wasn't something Shelly had control over. It seems to me that she has pulled it together in a short period of time with the goal of one day reuniting with and raising her blood kin in a loving, safe environment. There are thousands of children who have been reunited with their biological families. With the proper care and support, the child will adjust. Shelly *did* have her sister, AA...and she truly did lose her through no fault of her own. Your lack of compassion for that is saddening.