The parent of a Cumberland County 7th grader said her daughter is getting bullied by classmates. She also claims the principal will not stop it.
Twelve-year-old Allyson Inman claims several classmates make rude remarks to her daily, and one even touched her inappropriately. Now her mother is filing criminal charges against the kids she said are bullying her daughter.
The Southview Middle School principal said the school conducted an investigation about Inman's complaints.
Cumberland County sheriff's detectives said it will take about a week to investigate her complaint and file charges.
My son has a girl following
My son has a girl following him around, punching him and pulling his hair. He will not hit her back because I told him not to ever put his hands on a girl, no matter what. I tell him to stay away from her but she looks for him. I am still trying to decide what to do.
Need Help What to do!
CAN SOMEONE HELP OR TELL ME WHAT TO DO WHEN YOUR CHILD IS TRYING TO DEFEND HER SELF AT SCHOOL.AND GOT SUSPENDED FOR 5 DAYS SELF DEFENSE. HOW DO I PRESS CHARGES ON THIS KIDS PARENTS.HOW TO KNOW IF THE SCHOOL IS DOING SOMETHING ABOUT THESE.WHO DO I TALK TOO.WHAT SHOULD I DO.
I was small for my age and
I was small for my age and had problems with bullies when I was 8 or 9 years old back in the late 80's. My parents told me to fight back and that's what I did. I didn't have any more trouble after that.
My opinion and only a
My opinion and only a opinion is that the only inappropriate conduct that is going on is that neither the school nor the cumberland county school board is addressing the issue. There are filing down at the sheriff's office in regards to activities that are going on in that school. I am a parent with children going to that school and I am very concerned about there well being. I believe we are supposed to send our children to school to get a eduction, and that is a responsibility of the state to provide a safe place for them. That is not Happening at this school! Will try to get parents together to try to help resolve some of these issues.
More than a week?
It's been more than a week have any charges been filed in Cumberland County? Does any one have any info?
Charges filed???
Haven't heard anything about charges being filed in that case. I do notice that all the bullying at Codiginton posts have been removed! INTERESTING! What happens in the dark will ALWAYS come out in the light!
Bullying
Yes, It is STILL going on at CODINGTON! I have now had to get an attorney involved since the Sherriff's department can't even help me.
Is That
The question is. They can't help you or won't help you. I believe it the latter of these.
Just tell your kids to let
Just tell your kids to let the bully know that their Father is a "Hit Man" for the Mafia.
That will do it!
Bully's
Best answer I have heard yet! No one gets hurt...that's a good one!
until some pistol-packing
until some pistol-packing anklebiter watches The Sopranos and chooses the dad in question for a career-building skills demonstration
Years ago when I was in high
Years ago when I was in high school, there was a girl who had lost her hair due to some medical condition. She wore a wig to school but anyone over the age of 40 knows what the wigs at that time looked like, so there was no mistaking it was not her hair. What amazed me was not the fact that the other students made this girl's life a torment from the time she got on the bus in the morning til the time she got off, but even more so, the teachers that wanted to appear to be "so cool" to their students joined in the torment. The girl tried to fit in. She was a good student, and she was interested in writing so she joined the journalism class. The teacher in charge of the yearbook and school paper actually led the campaign to get this girl to drop the class. My daughter was bullied for a time in junior high school, but since she is in 9th grade now and at the same school with her brother, no one bothers her. He is 6'5" and weighs 250 pounds and has never hurt a fly, but no one takes a chance. It is sad that children who are bullied cannot feel like they can get relief from reporting the situation to the school authorities. If this lady cannot get relief from the school, then she is well within her rights to file criminal charges against the students. It isn't like they don't know what they are doing in wrong.
bullying
I am glad the mother is filing charges. I went the same kind of thing with my daughter when she was in the 5th grade in Pittsburg KS. I tried talking to the teachers, then the school counselor, and then the principal. All to no avail. I finally had a conference with all of them at one time and let them know that if they did not put an immediate stop to the bullying I was going to file a law suit against them for not protecting my daughter. This got their attention. The two girls involved were put into detention and their parents were notified. Believe it or not the girls and my daughter did eventually become friends and the two that had been doing the bullying realized that their behavior was immature and unwarranted.
I hope this Miss Inman is successful in her attempts at getting the bullying stopped. Bullying can be very damaging to the object of the bullying.
Discipline and Bullies
I am new to the parenting scene. But I am not new to the whole bullying scene. I was picked on and bullied in school. My parents let me stand up for myself and there were some battles I am sure they helped me to fight. But did anyone ever think that bullying is the effect of a parent not giving a damn? Honestly you should undergo severe psychological testing to be a parent nowadays. It is sad but true. Parents bully kids, kids bully other kids. I shudder to think what will happen when my son goes to school but I know that he will be aware of what to do in regards to self defense and that he will know he can come to me anytime he needs to. I commend the mom pressing charges because I would do a lot worse. She is being nice about it.
But to make a good point every parent can learn from, if you spare the rod you spoil the child. There is a fine line between discipline and abuse, so be careful when disciplining your child, but don't always be the best friend. Love your child, be a friend, but be a parent. Show them you are in charge and that you know what is best for them. Parents are not meant to bully their children and children are not meant to bully the parent or fellow children. Of course if we raised our kids the way God intended, we wouldn't have all the problems. But we stray and the problems arise. So what is that telling us? Go back and let God help you. Simple solution...
Why do they bully?
Ive always wondered, why do we/they bully?
ive got picked on durin' school, & i've never bullied someone atleast i dont think i did. i think its missery when your bullied. my own kid gets bullied & he wonders the same thing "why do they bully?" comment if you know why they bully.
Kids Can't Fight Back Anymore
My son goes to Pine Valley and is Christian. I'm sure I will get flack for this but I don't care..He gets bullied from Muslims. As a parent, I've stood up against with teachers and principles and they have resolved the problem hands down. However, if your child is being bullied as mine was all year, you cannot fight back in any sort of way. You can't push back once pushed, etc. Both children will be suspended. If my childs gets suspended for defending himself, then so be it. The state of affairs with our public schools has me considering they don't have the qualifications to be teaching my son, so it may be homeschool at some point.
Hmmmm
But isn't Islam a peaceful religion?? Yea, I didn't think so either.
Bullying...yes, put your foot down
Absolutely ! This mother is right on and others need to make a stand against bullying - - DO NOT let Your child deal with it alone, especially if it has been an on-going issue. When kids are victimized by bullies they are usually "at a loss for words and/or actions" on what to do. We took matters into our own hands - - and our son's bully is now a "shadow of himself." He will NOT be bullying anyone again. My husband (big guy, muscular) met the kid after school and asked him, "What his problem was...if it happens again then the police will be involved." Well...it NEVER happened again and the bully's mother went on antidepressants. You reap what you sow. If you are going to dish it out (bullies) - you better be prepared to take it !! We are our children's protectors if the need should arise.
As an elementary counselor,
As an elementary counselor, I consider your husband's actions to be bullying - intimidation because he is bigger and stronger. If the school does not have an anti - bullying program, they should start one. Start by talking with your child's teacher, and keep going up the chain of command to the School Board until the school responds appropriately. They are required by law to do so. You do more harm than good by sending an adult to fight a child's battles, as the child will never learn to do so for themselves.
Yes, my daughter's
Yes, my daughter's elementary school had a school counselor as well. But since he was currently undergoing therapy for his bad temper and beating his wife, it was made crystal clear that any time she needed "counseling", to call me and we could take care of that at home.
Of course he had also held the position of custody mediator for the county we live in at one time. Most of the problems with the schools today is that personnel are hired based on what diplomas are hung on the wall and not the actual person.
an elementary school
counselor?
Is this what our educational system has come to?
Elementary school counselors? Is that to provide suggestions on favorite colors?
I'm not trying to be mocking; but how on earth does one counsel elementary school children?
There was a time, and it was not that long ago when there was no such animal as an elementary school counselor.
I saw a counselor in High School who assisted in making college based decisions. She also mentored those who were not college bound on career options as well as draft options.
My daughter did not see a counselor until high school. She seemed to survive the pre high school absence and went on to a stellar college experience at Chapel Hill and a Masters from George Mason.
Perhaps part of the problem is the presence of counselors before they are really needed and the pressure they put on parents who are trying to be good parents.
But then in my school days, and those of my daughter, we had no need for school resource police officers. Schools focused on schooling; Parents focused on child rearing.
Stupidity shining through
No, things are not like they used to be 'back in the day'. Back in the day I could let my kids go outside and play and not worry about some pervert trying to take them. Back in the day, I could walk around the mall at age 12 by myself and not have to worry about my safety.
But we no longer live 'back in the day'. We live in the here and now. And here and now, counselors are required. My son REFUSED to stand up for himself. Not because he was scared but because he didn't want to hurt the other child. He is not a small child and his younger siblings are smaller than he is so we have to remind him to be careful when he rough houses with them. And I believe that is why he wouldn't fight back. Plus, he felt there were other ways to deal with the issue.
I am thankful for the counselor at our school. She is a wonderful lady who truly loves children and does what she can to help out anyone in need and it isn't just psychological counseling. It's helping with social services if someone loses their home or making sure the child has what he/she needs for school, etc.
I'm glad you're daughter didn't need services (or at least not that you may have paid attention to) however there are those who do need it. The use of a counselor may be used by SOME to replace their own parenting skills but that is not a characterization for ALL!!!
Another kid ruined
"My son REFUSED to stand up for himself. Not because he was scared but because he didn't want to hurt the other child. He is not a small child and his younger siblings are smaller than he is so we have to remind him to be careful when he rough houses with them."
Perhaps if you had told the younger, smaller siblings to "get tougher or run faster," your oldest son would not have been afraid to stand up for himself?
You see, he WAS scared. He was scared of ticking you off or disappointing you by violating some enforced weenie status you have heaped upon him.
You need to tell him that there are times when violence is justifiable. When he kicks the snot out of some bully, you need to stand behind him and support that decision.
I wonder what law enforcement and the military is going to be like in twenty years, when the recruiters have nothing but "nice, caring, gentle souls" to choose from.
assumptions
You make assumptions about situations you have NO clue! We actually have let the children have knock down drag out fights (with our supervision).They've come away with scratches, bruises, etc. No broken bones or major injuries but my husband and I do recognize they need to deal with their unresolved anger issues they have with each other at times.
My son is NOT scared of me. I told him on a daily basis to kick the snot out of that punk kid. I backed him up EVERY DAY!!! It is the school system who didn't back him up. He knew from the get go that if he got in trouble at school he would NOT get in trouble at home as long as he was standing up for himself or his siblings! My child gets suspended from school because he was standing up for himself or his siblings, there won’t be punishment at home. He’ll have a mini vacation!
Also, I resent the implication that you have placed on my child as a 'weenie'. Yes, he is a gentle, caring soul who also happens to be a CHILD!!! A child who is still trying to learn his way in this messed up world overbearing, know it all people like you have created for us. You always have a lot to say and anything someone says to the contrary is wrong. Of course, I shouldn’t expect anything less coming from you. In fact, it is difficult to figure out who the bigger bully is on these forums: Common or SurfCity Tom!
Must have hit a nerve, huh?
Now tell your son to take care of the bully *AWAY* from school, and back him up to the hilt. There is a time when "gentle and caring" needs to be placed on the shelf, temporarily.
Nerve
yeah ya hit a nerve but you usually do! I agree there is a time to place gentle and caring on the shelf and that is what I tried to do. As for getting the bully 'away' from school? The child doesn't live in our neighborhood nor do they ride the same bus. So that wasn't an option either!
Now that, I can understand
It was a LOT easier to travel to "settle things" when I was a kid and where I grew up. I lived in a city and school districts were only a couple of miles in radius. We didn't have overly protective parents forbidding us from going past the end of the block. We wandered for miles in any direction.
I can see how the logistics of confronting a bully away from school down here would be more difficult.
Did you consider driving him over to the bully's neighborhood? That would make an interesting message board (and maybe even a TV Movie) if THAT ever came out. Heather Locklear IS "Revenge Mom," tonight at Nine on Lifetime.
No....I think I'd have to advise him to risk the covert approach at school...the extremely painful, quick and stealthy attack that could be explained away as an accident in the event it was seen.
Listen, I'm not saying you're a bad mother or your son is a wimp. I'm saying that we are coddling our kids far too much, and society as a whole is suffering for it. The reason we have so many thirty year-olds who can't manage their lives is because they were never given a chance to learn by a baptism in fire growing up. We do everything for them, don't let them take any risks, place no duties or responsibilities on their shoulders, and then wonder why Junior is such a lost soul when he strikes out on his own. (If he ever does. I've never seen so many grown men living at home with mom and dad as now.)
I'm only saying that it should be an EXTREMELY severe and very isolated case when parents or school officials need to get involved to stop bullying.
response
Taking into consideration that children are bused into where my son goes to school and knowing where this child lives, I'd rather use the covert option or step in to take care of the issue. This other child does not live in the best of neighborhoods and I will every means possible to keep my child safe. Besides, by taking him over to the other child's house I'm only perpetuating the situation by advocating more violence, which is what I want to stop. Instead of teaching my son to stand up for himself I would be teaching him to 'hunt' down the person responsible. Isn't that something everyone else is complaining about these days?
I do not coddle my children. However, it is my responsibility as a parent to make sure they are safe. And FYI, I'm in my thirties - early thirties and I don't believe in coddling my children. They are learning to be responsible or face consequences because of it. This is a difficult world we live in. This is not my parents world nor is it even my world anymore. Life is not as simple as it used to be nor is it as easy as telling 'Little Bobby' to meet you on the playground at 3 to settle this issue.
From my response...
...it was intuitively obvious to the most casual observer that I was not advocating your driving him to the bully's neighborhood.
We can go on about this forever, so I'll let this be my last post by falling back on something you stated earlier, and something I mentioned earlier.
You told your son to handle the situation at school if needed, and that you'd back him up. He chose not to do that.
When my daughter was being bullied, she too didn't want to get into trouble at school. She didn't go after the bully immediately. What it finally took to get some action out of her was me saying something to the effect of, "Look, I'm sick of hearing about this kid. If he is that mean and consistently picks on you, I've already told you what to do. If you won't do that, then he's simply going to keep bullying you and you're accepting your fate. Stand up for yourself or quit whining. You have to fight your own battles."
She did stand up for herself, quite effectively. The kid never bothered her again. (A GIRL had beaten him up!) Her mother and I had to go meet with the teacher and principal, and that was it - it was over. Of course that was a long time ago, before the forces of total "pansification" started winning.
But the point I'm trying to make is that sometimes our kids need a little tough love to guide them. Sometimes they can overuse the shoulder to cry on, and we have to yank it out from under them.
There is no reason why your son has to put up with bullying, but he may need a figurative size ten to get him into gear. Tell him to stand up for what's right. ALWAYS stand up for what is right, and if he gets in trouble for it, well....the toughest steels come out of the hottest fires. He'll survive a little adversity.
Of course, you risk creating a monster...my shy little angel now stands 5' 11" and won't leave patrol division because she enjoys the street too much.
So Right
The very few times someone picked on any of my children I was right in the middle of it, because if you wait for the school system to take action your kids are going to get hurt. They want to take it to a counselor and talk about everyones feelings. They also say no matter if your child is getting beaten with a fist or a weapon or what ever they have no right to defend themselves. State and federal law says a person can use reasonable force to defend against an attack I have never seen an age limit on that. I always taught my children to never use their fists or a weapon to solve a problem. I also told them they didn't have to take a beating from someone because the other person was to stupid and had to result to violents to get their point across. I have given at least 2 school children juvinile records for assaulting my children and their parents were investigated by DSS also. Yes my children could have taken anyone of them apart but they used restraint and came to me with the problems and I as an adult can do more and worse things than they can and it's all legal. There are times when you are backed into a corner and it's either fight to get out or get hurt and beaten and no one has to take that from anyone
assult in school being ignored, need help
My daughter was assaulted in school. The school states that there were no witnesses to the fact. The student who assaulted my child had called us and admitted to the truth of the incident, but gave a different story to the school. I filed a complaint with the police in charge of the schools, the state school board, and the superintendent of school. You said that you had given at least 2 school children juvenile records for assaulting your children and their parents were investigated by DSS also. First I would like to know how to press assault charges so that the child who assaulted my child will have a record and the second thing I would like to know is what is DSS?
Juvenile Petition
You can go to the magistrates office downtown with the information on the child including the parents name address and phone number and take out a Juvenile Petition which is like taking out a warrant on an adult. If the magistrate doesn't do this they can direct you to the department that does. It will be served by law enforcement and a court date will be scheduled providing the DA in Juvenile court proceeds with it. As for DSS I called them because of the childs assult on my child. That kind of behavior had to be learned some where and the home is most likely where it was learned. DSS is the Department of Social Services they have a child protective division that looks into abuse and neglect and teaching a child to be violent is the worse kind of abuse or neglect.
No elementary counselors? I
No elementary counselors? I am from Pennsylvania, where many elementary schools have school counselors. I have sole responsibility for 4K (four year old KG) through second grade, and share duties with another counselor for third through sixth grades. Most of our duties are reactive, dealing with divorce and custody issues, abusive parents, incarcerated parents, drug addicted parents, kids being raised by grandparents, latchkey kids, and kids diagnosed with any number of psychological problems. My training is as a school psychologist. I also do a lot of pro-active work, teaching social skills lessons in all classrooms - honesty, respect, citizenship, good learning skills, responsibility, work ethic, bully-proofing etc. I came across this link through an anti-bullying newsletter I receive weekly.
Just think...
Had you gotten a degree in engineering, science, economics or business, you could have made an ever better living in a REAL job, and we wouldn't have had to stick the taxpayers with some phony-baloney make-believe job.
How did we raise a dozen generations of successful people without psychology majors yakking to them in first grade? (Do you have a little tiny couch in your office?) How did America become the superpower that she WAS without five year-olds being psychoanalyzed?
Indeed, it seems that we were a LOT better off when people simply dealt with what life gave them, and had to stand on their own two feet. All this coddling seems to be doing nothing but producing millions of people who can't manage even the simplest tasks in life.
Ah well, I guess we have to do something with the bazillion psych and soc majors that our universities produce ever semester. They have to get some return on four years of styudying the blatantly obvious. Why produce anything when you can get paid to sit around and talk?
Meanwhile, American companies are importing engineers and scientists on H-1B visas because we can't find enough to hire here in the United States.
Be glad that Shakespeare didn't know about "grief counselors" and "elementary school guidance counselors" when he was penning Henry VI, or he might have totally skipped mentioning lawyers....
Common
they just don't get it. We're of a generation where we achieved or failed on our merits and backbone. We had no need for counselors; we were counseled at home; and had the ability and wisdom to accept our parents' guidance even when we disagreed.
Now, these counselors so ingrain the child's mind through rose colored glasses that Parents fear being Parents as Social Services will show up at the door.
We all know parents who faced undeserved pressure because Junior or Sally Mae knew just the right story to tell in front of the counselor or knew how to make marks on their arms to create an impression of child abuse at home. That is sure a Counselor's delight.
And clearly, they can not see that when one generation can go forth in the world and achieve sucess both in business and society, that generation must be doing something right. How can they challenge that success especially when it is followed by another generation of succesful people?
I suppose they have to justify their existence and the salaries they draw somehow.
They never will get it, Tom
You and I are dinosaurs, and the America we knew is rapidly fading into a memory.
Every one of these boards has one compelling theme: "Don't tell me what I don't want to hear."
"Don't tell me that he's not a good boy, just because he has a long record of criminal convictions."
"Don't tell me that it's my fault that I'm on welfare, just because I had a kid but no job or no husband."
"Don't tell me that I should cut back on my cell phone, buy a used car, or get a roommate to allow me to pay for my own health insurance."
"Don't tell me that it's normal for my beautiful boy to come home with skinned knuckles or a black eye. He could die!"
It's like I said earlier - we are a nation of scared sheep. People are scared of life's realities, and the hard work and hardships that must be endured to succeed. We no longer do the RIGHT thing, we do the most expedient and politically correct thing.
For my entire life I lived with one underlying guiding light - "It's better to die on your feet than to live on your knees."
Unfortunately, that idea isn't too popular these days. God help this country....but I truly think he's lost interest in us.
Don't give up
yet. As long as folks like us can pass along a spirit of independance and achievement based success, there may be hope.
As long as the generation following you and I understands hard work and determination rather than a willingness to sit on one's behind and accept a life based on handouts, there's hope.
As long as the Green Machine is out there willing to take a few good men and women and teach them to focus on success, there is hope.
Perhaps somewhere, there's another Ronald Reagan who will ride to our rescue.
Oh well, we can always put border gaurds at the swing bridge and keep the miscreants and illegal immigrants off the island.
And if push comes to shove, we can always move back to the farm and become survivalists.
Well, I've just used a few words not often seen. I wonder of any of these witty social scientists will take the time to look them up?
Good Post Guys
I share your thoughts and concerns.
Why Don't...
Why don't you two just get a room...
Why?
And your point?
Good for your husband! I
Good for your husband! I think this is GREAT!!!! To tell you the truth-your husband did this kid a big favor-maybe this will keep him out of jail someday!!!
Bullying
I disagree with the guest who said that bullying is a part of the "pecking" order. I don't know how old that guest is, and yes way back when, bullying might have been part of childhood, but the rules have changed. Bullying has become more violent and more common. There is a big difference between teasing someone and making their life so miserable that they don't want to go to school or may be scared. You will find that in most cases, the bully is facing issues at home his or her self. Any parent who would defend bullying at any level needs to take a good look at themselves. I just wonder how that parent would feel if his/her child bullied someone and that someone took a gun or weapon to the bully. The story would change. Society is breeding alot of violence now that didn't exist years ago. But what can we expect when our society has turned their back on God and has let Satan taken over.
You are absolutely correct,
You are absolutely correct, to Commonsence, you missed the ball on this one. Back in the day, it was much different than it is today. Having worked in a school as a volunteer for many years (recently), I have seen way too much. The teachers and principals don't do anything most of the time for fear of being sued - we have alot of people right here in our community who sue for a living. The bullies know that they can't be touched so they just keep on, some have even driven their victims to suicide. These bullies need to be reported, arrested by juvenile services for harrasement, and dragged throught the courts with their parents so that they know we mean business. ZERO tolorance for bullying!!
Is it that the world has changed?
Or is it that WE have totally screwed up their world?
I thank God every day that my kids are in their thirties, in well established careers, and finished their educations before the "pansification and political correction" of America.
As far as teachers and principals who "don't do anything most of the time for fear of being sued," what does that say about THEIR backbone? Who fails to do the job he or she is getting paid for out of FEAR?
That may be the most telling commentary I've heard in years. We have become a nation of scared little weenies. We're scared of EVERYTHING.
What a sad commentary on our society you provide....
GOOD FOR YOU MOM!
IT'S ABOUT TIME! I HAVE SEEN THIS A LONG TIME AND IT SEEMS LIKE THIS MIGHT BE THE ONLY WAY TO STOP THESE INSECURE KIDS. ALOT OF TIMES THE PARENTS JUST DON'T CARE AND KIDS CARRY IT AROUND WITH THEM FOREVER! GOOD LUCK MOM!
Good for this mom! My son is
Good for this mom! My son is being bullied by a kid half his size-but it happens almost daily. They are on the same basketball team, they are 5th graders. My son asked this kid why he bothered him. He said, "Because I can, and my parents let me." Doesn't that say it all? These parents of the bullies need to know that we are serious and are not going to allow that crap to continue. My son has our permission to fight back, no matter what the school says. Sometimes parents have to intervene-this mom rocks!
Bullying
My son is being bullied/teased by a kid half his size as well. My son has Asperger's and has just turned the other cheek. This other kid is new to the school and I told my son, he makes fun of people so kids will think he is funny, where my son is genuinely funny and well liked. Last Thursday, he had had enough and punched the kid in class and broke his nose. Now the parents have filed a police report and are threatening to sue. We have been at this school for 7 years and I am the PTO president. We own our home and are well established in the community. This family just moved here from out of state, rent and I think are just looking for money. Despite statements from 2 teachers and the entire class, the principal cannot do anything about the bullying without "proof" meanwhile my son is suspedned for 4 days, we have a lawsuite looming and we may face criminal charges? Now What?
Notify
the insurance company which insures your home. That policy should include "Section II" Liability coverage which should help. It will in part, depend on your son's age and whether there will be corroborating witnesses as to the incidents to which your son was subjected.
You do not comment on what the teacher was doing at the time of the incident. Nor do you comment on whether the bullying took place immediately prior to your son throwing a punch.
You may want to talk to an attorney or ask your insurance carrier if they will cover litigation expenses.
Now what? You fight the lawsuit
Offer to pay the medical expenses, but beyond that, fight. The witnesses are all on your side.
We have turned into a nation of pansies, but there are still judges and juries that understand that young boys will fight, especially when provoked.
Your son did exactly what he should have. Be thankful and proud that you have been blessed with a little John Wayne, rather than an Alan Alda, Junior.
We have enough pansies.
the real world
YOu are right on post about your mom can't always be there and you need to stand up for yourself. and that there are bullies everywhere. but when you are a child things look different and we need to guide them. No it isn't just the school that needs to handle this it is everybody job. Kids now adays have no self asteam it is so easy to push them aside give them money and send them to the mall. My son came home yesterday and told me about a story that a sherriff had came to their school and talk about gang awareness. and told a true story about a kid that was pick on and he couldn't take it and didn't tell anyone about it and he killed his self and before he left he wrote a letter to his mom about it all. and the principal of this school yesterday read the letter out loud to the school. That has a great message for people of all walks of life to tell some one what is going on. So you can get some help and not face this alone. don't tell them in a letter after you are dead. I would wether have my kid tell me and me HELP him/her to fight their battles with them. than stand over a grave.