Only 10 percent of domestic violence cases reported

Doesn't matter now.. He currently will not be able to parole until 2011. He is now property of the NC Dept of Corrections.

It's sad that only 10% of domestic violence cases are reported. Last year, I lost my 18 year old sister(Latashia Toomer)to domestic violence. She was gunned down by her boyfriend, her very first boyfriend. There's no excuse because nobody should have the right to take a love ones life, I don't care what the circumstances are. We never knew she was being abused. She was scared. It wasn't until after he killed her that her employees told our family how he was stalking her at her job and a police officer would see her cry everyday. She talked to the officer and told him that the guy wouldn't leave her alone and that day the police officer promised that he would take care of it. Before the shooting he was arrested for carrying a concealed weapon, but some family member bailed him out. In the end it showed how much of a COWARD he was because he killed himself too. On top of that, you know what kind of family he has and how he was brought up if the only thing that his mother can say is he was Depressed. That's B-S because if he was that depressed she should have gotten her son help.As my father said in his interview, "Nobody had the right to take our baby away from us, she was our knee baby".

There are many reasons why an individual may not report abuse. In addition to the ones mentioned above, authority figures (such as police, doctors, and support organizations) may, for whatever personal reason, may have difficulty believing the victim. It may be the preception the authority figure has about the victim's life style, gender, race, religion, or other factor. People have to realize that even if a person is an authority figure, that doesn't mean they aren't Human, with all the baggage that comes with being a part of the species. Another possibility: Taught from earliest childhood to be a victim. Again, not only because of long existing stereotypes based on gender, race, financial class, etc, but because of how we raise kids to respond to abuse. For example, while there are plenty of organizations which claim to teach kids not to be "bullies" (better known as abusers, and that's not PC, that's reality), authority figures still don't prevent abuse in schools. From "don't be a tattle tale" to "ignore them and they'll stop" all the way to totally ignoring the abuse (look at various articles regarding the recent Cleveland school shooting as to how one kid, who was a long term abuse victim in school decided to act when he'd had enough). Tell me: if you did the same thing to adults that you do to kids when they are abused in school, how do you think the adult will turn out? So why do it to kids? Abuse (verbal, mental, physical, even sexual) at a young age, especially repeated abuse, will affect a child over long periods of time. They may commit suicide, become life long victims (sound familiar?), ignore their abuser but still be strong (and still may or may not trust authority figures), defend themselves violently or non-violently against their abuser without becoming an abuser (and may still get in trouble, thereby not trusting authority figures still), or may become abusers themselves. I understand that some kids like picking at each other in a friendly manner. But if a kid says "stop" or "no"... Think of how you are SUPPOSED to treat that situation as an adult victim of sexual harassment. If the "attacker" doesn't stop, you're supposed to report the person to an authority figure. So, uh, what's so hard to understand that that is what should be done as kids? If you do that when they are kids, they'll trust authority figures later in life too. I know this is a long post, but my point isn't that I'm being PC, but rather, that we teach individuals at the earliest learning points, and they will follow later in life. Teach them not to make false claims, whatever excuse they may think they have. Teach them that they shouldn't hit ANYONE, and that NO ONE has the right to hit them. Teach them that their feelings are as important as everyone else's. Teach them that they can trust authority figures without being laughed at because they can't possibly be a victim because of their race, gender, or other ignorant factor. End abuse for EVERYONE, not just one group or the other, and the act of abuse will end. Andrew

one of the guys running for mayor was in the island gazette saying he is sorry he beat his wife but he said when he did it, it was because he was poor. POOR? Poor excuse for a man, awful excuse for a candidate is all I got to say. Island Gazette article

I fully understand the financial, emotional, and physchological pressures abused spouses are under, but unless you want to accept life as a punching bag, help put him (or her) in jail. Suck it up, steel that backbone, and GET OUT! In my entire life, I have never met a formerly abused spouse who thought that they had made a mistake in ending the relationship.

what do you do when your ex and his spouse use verbable abuse aganist you. what can you do to stop it. when the courts will not do anything to them. it has been going on for years and i dont know what to do. please comment if you have any info. thanks!!!!