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TROUBLESHOOTERS: Child support woes

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It's hard enough trying to make ends meet in this economy as it is. So imagine being a single parent, trying to provide for your children when your ex owes you thousands of dollars in back child support. That's a reality for many single mothers in our viewing area, and in tonight's Troubleshooters report, we're taking a closer look at what it's like for them.

Kristine Gaston is owed about $13,000 in back child support from the fathers of two of her children. She's been waiting on the money for years. So long, in fact, that her children are now grown. Adding to the hardship, her 20-year-old daughter had a child of her own when she was 15, and the two of them now live with Gaston, too. Paying the bills without the money she's owed is not easy.

"Me and my husband now, we work two jobs a piece just to make ends meet," Gaston said.

Gaston said her exes have skirted the system to avoid having to pay her. That's a common complaint from mothers who call our newsroom fed up with a child support enforcement system that they say simply doesn't work.

The state of North Carolina handled more than 426,000 child support cases last year and collected about $700 million in child support payments. But when you break that down, it's only about $1,600 per case. That's not a lot of money when you consider what it costs to raise a child.

Child support enforcement officials say it can be an uphill battle to collect payments.

"It just depends on the absent parent's situation: whether he's unemployed, decreased in work hours," Judy McArn of Child Support Enforcement said. "There are those who work just daily jobs and get paid cash under the table."

One of Gaston's exes is on disability and only has to pay $32 a month toward the thousands he owes. She says at this rate, she'll be dead before she gets paid back.

So what advice does she have for people who have yet to have kids to avoid the same fate?

"Make sure they're married," Gaston said. "Only thing I can tell you. Make sure they're married., 'cause it's hard when you're a single mom."

Besides garnishing wages, unemployment and disability checks, the state can also garnish your tax refund to collect money that's owed in back child support. You can also be put in jail or have your driver license revoked for failure to pay, but moms we talk to say those penalties are not enforced as often as they should be.

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It goes both ways

My ex and I have had it both ways. At first he had all three kids and I the mom paid 525 per month. After a year one turns 18 and moves in with me. Six months later the middle child is court ordered to live with me whereas an Oder was set in Johnston cty that neith parent paid support as I had the two oldest and he had the youngest. This winter I get my bank and tax return taken from wake cty. And of course I hired an attorney. We are fighting for a year of arrears not owed as I had a court order from Johnston cty. The funny joke is I know have my youngest living with me for four months. Meanwhile I have had my children and paid for food. Clothes. Ect...and they say the Johnston order was not good. So I have all of you. I had the kids and took care of them and they are trying to send seized monies to my ex. Which will be contempt in Johnston if he cashes them. Luckily I remarried and we have lawyered up. The system needs an overhaul. It starts with the ones in charge and being held accountable. We will. My kids will as they turn 18. They are appalled after seeing their mom struggle to make payments to a wife beater. And then be told once I have the kids that the Johnston order does not count. I can not wait to play this out in wake and Johnston and first circuit. The system must be held accountable and are.

Not to be rude, but I see a

Not to be rude, but I see a major problem with this article. For one its not just females that are owed child support. There are plenty of fathers out there who are dealing with "dead beat mothers", Where were we mentioned in this article.

Not to mention its not just the mother or the fathers fault that isn't paying. We sometimes need to make better choices in or relationships and we would not have to deal with dead beat parents. What do you think is going to happen when you have children with these people??? I know my ex was and still is a piece of crap, and I knew it at the time, but I still chose to have a child with her. Now I am reaping what I sow.

Lastly this is a cycle we need to break. I had a child at 17, but I grew up and raised my child so that she would not follow in my footsteps. its hard to feel sorry for most of these people when they made the choices to have these children with people who were not parent material, and then raise these children to follow in their footsteps and be just like them.

Raising your own child with or without the help of the other parent is not a job!!! If you love your child you do it and you enjoy it. I am now a father of 4 children and I have adopted 4 more children and I love it. And I do not expect anyone else to support these children. I work hard sometimes 2 or three jobs and I provide for my kids. And I hate to hear people say they cant do that because I was raised by a single mother who made very bad choices for me and I followed in her footsteps for a short time, but I realized that if I didn't want my children to be like her and like me I needed to make a change.

I went from being a punk criminal fresh out of prison to being a great father who provides for his children. All because of the love for my kids. If you don't have the support of your child's other parent then suck it up work hard and provide the life your kids deserve and stop crying about how hard it is. YOU chose to have these kids now be responsible for them.

This woman in this article hat 2 kids from 2 different men who obviously were less than parent material. SHE is just as much at fault as he is here. I don't depend on my children's mother to provide for me or them. Neither do I depend on my 4 adopted children's parents to help me. I do it myself and its not a job, its the greatest thing ever to have these kids rely on me!!! I love it and I would have it no other way.

Why Must we act like this........

My comment goes to male/female. Life has cause and effect to it.Be responsible for all your actions, alot of things we didn't think about during the process of making these kids. I myself have two wonderful kids, without any help from their so call father. H remarried and called me to see if they could be in his wedding, come to find out it was his cousin he was marrying. I laughed real hard cause you had to be stupid to want to invite a child whom you have never cared for. My best opinion hold your head up and keep it moving.
Besides the other party thinks they have it made but they miss out on the little things in life.

Now my kids are older and they see for theselves what time it is. But they also knew who stuck around and fought on their behalf. NORTH CAROLINA CHILDSUPPORT IS FULL OF IT. Those fat people are eating real salaries off our backs and what do they do nothing. The all should be fired and sent packing they don't care about you or your child they only care about them.

Think they are laughing at you, you mad and fussing not getting your needs met for chasing your worker down. What they really want to ask you is why did you have a child with this person. They are designed to get in your business and be nosey. I think you should really work hard and do what you gotta do without any GOVERNMENT help.

Haven't you noticed the all the involvement occurs every 3 years, they dont care. My child needed every year as they were growing. I made this happen and Who cares about being there for the non- custodial parent they should have been around if you wanted your voice heard. AS for the other spouses involved mind your business unless asked cause you only run your house not the other.
Step-parents are the worst especially when they have kids of their own they are trying to over do it because of the biological parent raising. But again it depends on what you male/female wants.

BEEN ON BOTH SIDES OF THE BLOCK

I am a mother that receives support for my daughter. No surprise he is in arrears but we maintain a decent relationship for my daughters sake. He keeps her if I need the help and pays sparaticly. Common sense says if I am struggleing so is he so I leave well enough alone. Plus I find it of no help to put him in jail for failure to pay because then what?? My daughter still wont get what she needs if hes in jail. Now on the other side of the fence, my feance has a child with another woman and is in arrears himself. Here lies my problem with the system. He is in arrears 26,000 for a child he never knew he had. No dna, nothing ever signed that he was the father and yet just last year was served and arrested for this? It seems the only way to prove it is with an attorney which, of corse, cost A LOT of money. A very vicious cycle this system is. My solutions for a lot of people, have the non custodial parents rights removed. It will in turn weed the person out of yours and your childs life, will dead child support (your not getting anyway) and if you thought you were the better parent for the child, struggle with the rest of the world. If you can maintain a relationship with the other parent do as I do, and lean on eachother (I count on him for free childcare, and he counts on me to not put em in jail) I have several other experiences and poor views of this system but have found bantering about it to be of no help. Good luck to you all, hope you find your happy medieum.

i am a father who collects

i am a father who collects support. my childs birth mother does not pay her monthly support and even quit her job so she doesnt have to pay it. shes only obligated to $71/month and shes stays behind. i feel that shes able to get away w/ being behind since her husband is a cop for the city of carolina beach. it is ridiculous that they only require her to pay 71/month. thats a joke and so is the system !!

I am a father with full

I am a father with full physical and legal custody of my child. Her mother only sees her 4 days out of the month. She is only obligated to pay $73/month, and that is delinquent. Additionally, there are 3 years of unpaid medical bills which her mother is liable for by order, all in arrears.

CSE are involved and they do the best they can, but no one has ever held my ex accountable to maintain employment or anything.

Meanwhile, a friend of mine was ordered by the court to maintain employment to pay hundreds of dollars a month of support and he shares custody of his daughter with his ex.

New Hanover County

This child support thing in New Hanover County is a JOKE. The courts judges are even funnier. Ok you owe over $8800.00 dollars lets see you need to pay 25.00 a month to arrears do you understand oh yes your honor. They walk out of court room and do not pay anything for six months because it takes that long to get them back in court then he is given another court appointed attorney and another one to two months to come up with the same excuse and the Judge repeats pay 25.00 a month I have heard this so many times since 2000 I do not even take off to go to court anymore. Until the Judges start holding them truly accountable it will never get better especially in New Hanover County!!!!!!!! Oh he can afford this marijunana on a daily basis.

Child Supprt Enforcement Agency

I started my case with child support enforcement agency in December 2008 and here it is August 2012 and still do not have a court order!!!! My son will be grown before I can even get to court! Guess im just a struggling single mother!!! thank you NC CHILD SUPPORT ENFORCEMENT!!!!!

Child Support Needs Changing!

We need to petition the laws that child support is not income based but the actual cost to raise the child split 50/50. I am a single mom of 2, my oldest childs dad has never really paid and is is over $18,000 behind. My 2 year olds "donor" bailed during pregnancy, child support took a year to even take him to court, didn't make him pay back a dime on the 1st year of her life and only makes him pay $23 week. So courts basically said it's ok to be a dead beat. $23 week does almost nothing to help us. But I have a friend who pays $800 month so she gets too much while he struggles. Why are some kids worth more than others? Why should 1 parent have all expense? Laws need changing!

north carolina child support

I have a.14yr old son his father owes 20,000$ child support let's him get away. His taxes haven't been taken in over 8 yrs. He pays 15$ a month if that. The judge always let's him go. He has had no repercussions he pays till CS is off his case then he finds a new job. I feel that the judge in the CS cases should ask more questions. And give the custodal parent a chance to voice there feelings. I have written letters to head office and government. No one pays any attention.

The Goose and Gander

If the state pays for lawyers for moms (child enforcement attorneys) they should also pay for fathers attorneys.

This is the problem that fathers run into. Sometimes they get laid off, get sick, get into an accident. They can't afford an attorney, but the state supplies the moms with one for free.

Men should take care of responsibilities, but at the same time, men shouldn't fall for "visitation rights". There are none, unless you can afford an attorney every time the ex says no.

If men are carted off to jail, women who violate divorce agreements and "scheduled visitations" should be right behind them.

Everyone should live up to their agreements.

we are living up to our

we are living up to our agreements.we bathe,feed,clothe,make sure that the kids go to doc,dentist,school,do homework.and the good for nothing fathers do NOTHING. they lie in court.they don't deserve their kids if they are going to do nothing for them!

Franklin County

I have a different situation. My husband and I are separated and our two daughters are living with me. The court has ordered him to pay child support. He has no issue with this, he agrees that he should. The problem is that CSE is deducting from his paycheck each week- but they take their slow sweet time disbursing the money. Each time I call the 800# or my case worker, I get the same lame responses... "Maybe he didn't work last week", or "the employer has two weeks to file." It is all a bunch of B.S. I never know from week to week WHEN or IF we will see any money. Half the time I try to check online and the website is down so I can't check payment status. Is it a requirement to be a complete moron to get a job with NC CSE?

vance county

Vance county is the lamest child support agency in north Carolina. Some of the agents have these attitudes like its not their jobs to help you. But I truly believe they need to create a law just as they have a DRUG TASK FORCE then they need to have a CHILD SUPPORT TASK FORCE TOO!!! THEY FIND THE DRUG DEALERS NOW FIND THE NO GOOD PARENTS!!!!

child support

NC Child support collectors do absolutely nothing to help the custodial parent, my ex wife owes me over $18,000 back child support. I'm lucky if I receive $100 a month of the $584 I'm suppose to receive. Yet her Facebook shows all of her purchases that she makes, from motorcycles, pool tables, cameras, I pads, and houses, and monthly trips. She owns a private business and does nothing to help with financial or medical support. I have provided all sorts of info to NCCS and get the same reply, we will send out a letter and get back with you, but the reply never comes, you never get a response from NCCS until you call to get an update.
I have tried private collectors only to get the same answer, "we do not work with NC residents due to the fact they (NCCS) will not help in any way". Something has to change, I have contacted attorneys for help, the attorneys want between $3,000 and $5,000 retainer, which means I will have to spend about as much as would get back.
Dead beat parents need to go to jail, I understand I can't collect while they are in jail but I'm not collecting now, so why should I watch her live the high life and have no responsibilities.

child support

Im a father who has full custody of my son since 1990 he was only a year old when i got custody,my ex-wife took flight out of state and couldnt be found and never tried to come and see her son.the last time i aw her she said just tell our son that she loves him.she also was supposed to pay child support bi-weekly,for the first 4-5 years i really didnt persue the payments because i was assuming that the cse was working on my case,needless to say one day i went down to franklin county cse to really find out what was going on,after talking to the lady behind the glass i found out that what she told me was that if i hadnt gone down there every day to complain that my folder just sat in a corner with others that havent pushed the issue,talk about feeling like a fool,here i was working 24-7 trying to pay daycare(which i couldnt afford)buying diapers(which i coulnt afford)buying food,gas, shelter,what pure hell i went thru but with all that to be said im glad i did what i did by getting custody,my son now is grown and with 2 boys of his own,im a proud grandfather with my ex-wife still to owe me $78,000.the system has failed the people who has trusted them to enforce it.i still want the money so i could give it to my son so he dont have to struggle like i had to do!

Child Support LIED and LIED

I have not only had to do the job for the workers but get ready for this I have had my child support stopped on more than 1 occasion by a phone call from the parent that should be paying Lieing to the workers about the children not being in my care (I have had to take the children to the Local office) to prove that they live with me..... Ridicules that they will stop it on their phone call of lies but when i have given them Address, name's SS#, Job,state where they lived and actually found them in jail and told the agency where they were thats when i found out i had been lied to about my case being interstate!! This i have been told dont exist but was told during many meetings to my face thats what my case was...

The NC Child Support agency takes our money and DOSE NOTHING for the children that is on their cases.... I am owed 8000.00 and the parent that owes me makes $42.00 an hour HOW crazy is this........????????????

Child Support

you know, I read a comment about those of us who are due child support are greedy and only tell 1/2 the truth? c'mon, only an idiot would think like that. First of all, child support hearings are held in a court with a judge preciding, therefore it was RULED for them to pay, if they disagree with the decision they are more than welcome to go back to court. I am on both sides of the fence and know exactly how screwed up the system is. I have cs owed to me from one county and I owe in another. the cs owed to me is over $11,800, however,the payment that I have to pay taken out of my check, so I am never behind and I always pay what I am ruled to do. I was behind $34 and do you know they had the law looking for me and come to find out it was THEIR mistake???? How can you come looking for me for $34 and you let him be for $11,000+????? You wasted more than that sending someone to my job and house.... more tax payers $$$ for what???? Every once in awhile he does pay, like for his b-day he sent $12 in for us to get him something... what a joke. And YES he knows where he is and how to get in touch with him and have always been more than welcomed to my house to visit or we could meet somewhere, him or his family. It is their choice not to call or visit in like uhm, 12 years!!!! they only live like 1 hour away, shux, I go shopping in their city, but now, at my childs age, he isnt a bit more interested in meeting him than the man in the moon and who could blame him?

I'm not a lawyer, but I play one on TV

Mmmm. Garnished wages. Maybe a little aglio e olio, a spritz of lemon.

Yes, I love me some garnished wages. Looking all pretty on the plate, my compliments to chef. Il complimentore,

OK, I'll stop; you get the point.

Hah. Garnished wages. If we say it enough times it might become inflammable.

Hah. Inflammable.

CHILD SUPPORT WOES

A Deadbeat is a deadbeat male, woman or whatever.I FEEL NC CHILD SUPPORT SYSTEM IS A BIG JOKE,ESPECIALLY THE ONE IN WILMINGTON,NC! YOU HAVE SOME COUNTIES LIKE PENDER AND BRUNSWICK THAT PUT THE WANTED NON-CUSTODIAL PARENT IN THE LOCAL PAPER SHOWING THEIR OWED ARREARS. THEN JUST LIKE TEXT-A TIP THEY ARE ABLE TO GET THESE PARENTS. WHAT I WANT TO KNOW IS WHY THE PARENT THAT IS PAYING SUPPORT AND DOING FAITHFULLY FOR THEIR KID(S) ARE GIVEN SUCH A HARD TIME FOR THE LEAST TIME THEY MISS A PAYMENT OR SOMETHING...WHILE THE DEADBEAT ARREAR PARENT IS NOT EVEN HARRASSED.I FEEL THE SYSTEM SHOULD SPEND MORE ENERGY AND TIME ON THE DEADBEAT ARREARED PARENT($1,000 OR MORE OWED)THAN THEY DO ON THE ONES THAT ARE TRYING AND DO CARE BUT MIGHT JUST HAVE A HARDSHIP EVERY ONCE IN A WHILE.I MEAN WOMAN OR MALE ....
I BELIEVE ALOT OF PARENTS FEEL WHEN THE CHILD GET GROWN THEY ARE SCOT-FREE, BUT IN FACT IF THE CUSTODIAL PARENT SIGN PAPER STILL WANTING THEIR CHILD SUPPORT CASE ENFORCED AND SEEK THAT IT STILL IS ENFORCED AND THAT ABSENT PARENT IS NOT OFF THE HOOK.THE CUSTODIAL PARENT DESERVE THAT MONEY NO MATTER HOW OLD THAT CHID GET BECAUSE THE WHOLE TIME THAT ABSENT PARENT WASN'T PAYING NOTHING THAT CUSTODIAL PARENT WAS AND DESERVE SOME RELIEF NO MATTER WHEN.MIGHT HAVE SURVIVE THE 18 YEARS BUT WAS A STRUGGLE TRYING TO HOLD THINGS DOWN WHILE CREDIT COULD OF WENT BAD BEAAUSE COULDNT PAY BILLS BECAUSE OF A CHILD NEED!! THE WORLD DONT LOOK AT INDIVIDUAL NEEDS BEACUSE IF A SINGLE PARENT MAKE A CERTAIN AMOUNT OF MONEY AND THEY FEEL OVER THE LIMIT FOR ASSISTANT THEY HAVE TO STRUGGLE TO MAKE ENDS MEET WHEN IN FACT THERE IS ONLY THAT 1 INCOME.THEN THOSE THAT PLAY THE SYSTEM OR LOW INCOME GET ALL THE "GOODIES"AND NOT HAVE TO STRUGGLE AS HARD.....SORRY THIS IS SUBJECT THAT HITS TO CLOSE TO HOME AND JUST MAKE ME MAD HOW THE SYSTEM(LOCAL,NATIONAL,FEDERAL, STATE, ALL IN BETWEEN)WORKS!!!ITS JUST SO OVERWHELMING!THE CHILD SUPPORT AGAENCIES DON'T REALIZE THESE ARREARED PARENTS ARE LAUGHING REAL HARD AT THEM CAUSE THE ARE SO EASY TO GET OVER ON!

I think you're all greedy and you tell half truths..............

http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Lynching

You're a lynch mob, did you know that linching is supposed to be illegal? You probably all withhold visitation to. It's all about you. Why not have the non custodial parents put to death or stoned.

no a lynch mob

Not a lynch mob and no half truths here my kids see their dad when ever they want to as long as they don't have school, at our expense because their dad can't even be bothered to have transportation, he only has to pay 332 a month, (for 2 kids mind you) and can't pay that half the time, my son had a brain tumor and we had to go back and forth to Chapel hill for chemo and radiation and all for more than 2 years we still have to go for checkups every few months, guess who didn't help one bit and slept through the brain surgery. I even took him to court through CSE to try to get help paying some of the gas and lodging money back, I had paperwork proving everything, even doctors notes telling who was always there, guess what he conveniently had not enough hours through new hanover cse because he works for a family member and can get away with whatever he wants, he also always has the same excuse when I try to get an increase he is working fine getting plenty of hours until he gets the letter about a review, then about a month before the court date his hours decrease. He plays the system all the time. When the kids come back from his house though they always complain because he doesn't spend any time with them because he is working side jobs (under the table) he always claims he is broke but he flashed his money in front of them, lives in the projects so he doesn't have to pay a bunch of rent, and expects us to pay for the gas and wear and tear on our cars for everything, the only time he doesn't get to see them is I just don't have the gas money to take them 3 counties away, which is hardly ever, I try to make it happen for them but this is not right and they are right new hanover cse is a big joke. We pay more child support for my husbands girls,than what we get for the same amount of kids and almost the same pay rate and we never miss a payment but if we did he would be in court in 2 seconds cause his ex is in bruns county they tried to get him one for not reporting a .25 raise he didn't know he had to report so you tell me what is wrong with this picture. My ex can't even take care of the two kids he had already then he got married again and had 2 more. I have always taken care of them no matter what and I don't complain because they are my kids and they are my responsiblity, and the most I have ever gotten from the govt is medicaid and food stamps, which I have earned because I have always worked my butt off and payed my taxes unlike a lot of people. (like him) But it is not right for people to get away with this kind of thing, and then when they voice the problem to try to get things changed for the better someone like you who is probably like my ex jumps in and calls us names like lynch mob walk a mile in our shoes before you judge everyone in your lynch mob theory telling half truths for those of us who hold it down and do what needs to be done, there is no need for half truths. Try taking care of your kids with little or no help in a situation like ours and for the last 15 years alone pretty much, the only reason I asked for child support is because after we split up in for years he gave me a couple of bags of chips that he was goin to throw out and 11 dollars one time in four years for a pack of pullups. Try dealing with someone like this then come back and pass your judgment. Grow up and be a man! If all men/women would take care of their own kids the economy would be a lot better and we would live in a much better place!

my childrens father hasnt

my childrens father hasnt been around for 5yrs hasnt even tried to see his children was thousands of dollars behind in childsupport they cancealed his childsuppoert yes cancealled it because they said they couldnt find him..... he was arrested n california n april so how they cant find him blows my mind..yes you all are very rite CHILDSUPPORT ENFORCEMENT IS A JOKE!!!! and not a good joke at that!!!

THIS HAS NOTHING TO DO WITH

THIS HAS NOTHING TO DO WITH BEING A LYNCH MOB. IF IT WAS YOU YOU WOULD FEEL THE SAME WAY. I NEVER STOPPED MY CHILDREN FORM SEEING THERE FATHER. MY DAUGHTERS FATHER ALWAYS HAD CONTACT WITH HER, SO DON,T GO JUDGINE IF YOU DON,T KNOW WHAT YOU TALKING ABOUT.

Deadbeat Moms too

Apparently this site also likes to defend deadbeat moms, or my earlier comments about the lack of help would have been posted. My ex WIFE has not paid a cent in 2 1/2 years and all i get is the runaround by the child support agency. I have given her current address 5 times in two years and they still cant get to her in time to serve her with papers or arrest her, in some cases she was at the address for 3 months before she moved to avoid arrest. If the roles were reversed, they would be knocking on my door within a few days of getting an address. Now she has fled the state and i was told, "Well, now thats going to create a whole new set of problems"...even though they have an address and her alias. Thanks NC Child Support agency.....thanks for nothing.

Child support

I went through a divorce in 2010,my wife took my three children to nc from ohio after meetin someone on facebook and took two thousand dollars.i sold everything i owned and moved nc to be by my kids.my wife became down on her luck and i ended up with all three children for six months,during that time i had a childsupport case open against her.they knew where she worked and lived and still couldnt find her?yea right!during that order she went to another county and opened a childsupport case against me.i live in ohio again and have primary of my oldest,who is seven,she has other two but guess what?i am paying support on all three and because she opened that support in a different county,i am also in rears 1900.my son and i are goin through hell because of this and i cant do nothin about it, i am broke.cant wait to see whats goin to happen next :/

From a Dad that does pay his child support

I am a divorced Dad and have two children from the marriage. Although the children live with their mother, we agreed to "joint custody" and signed what I was told at the time is a "standard custody agreement" allowing me to have the kids every other weekend and one night a week.

Now their Mom continues to use my possibility of seeing them beyond this original custody agreement as leverage because she knows that it causes me emotional distress. I was tired of her using this leverage and sought legal advice and have been told by several attorneys that if I pay the thousands of dollars to go to court to seek additional time that the judges will likely favor their Mother and that I should be happy with what I have.

I pay my child support on time and always have; I've also split the cost of camps, sports, etc. I am a good father: help with homework, volunteer in their schools, am a member of PTA, have coached their team, etc, etc. Where is the joint custody and equal rights? The system may have loopholes when it comes to those that don't pay child support, but for those that do it just seems down right sexist.

Sorry

I am sorry you are going through this if you do all of this I wish there were more dads like you because then there wouldn't be som many guys like you getting a bad wrap, my husband now does what needs to be done, so even though my ex is exactly opposite of you I think that it is bad for those dads who do right to be persecuted because of those who don't. Good luck. Keep your head up.

deadbeat dads

The government has no God given right to tell anyone what to do with thier own children.I suggest you worry the h--- out of every politicion you can call until they do away with the family court system that is tearing our famlies apart and making harlots out of the wives of decent men!!!If you vote for this system of satan, You may want to do the decent thing and refuse to vote.

I agree...

with the other comment here about single dads. No one ever talks about them. And I have to say how much I HATE hearing widowed and divorced parents referred to as "single". As far as these single moms, hey, how about not having any kids if you aren't married? Just a thought....