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UPDATE (2/14): Since we first aired this story, we've learned that Kaycie Davis was involved in a felony shooting back in the late 80's. Investigators said at the time she shot and killed her then husband. She was convicted of second degree murder and spent time in prison. Davis tells us her husband put a hit out on her and that's why she shot him.

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A New Hanover County mother is on the search for a new school for her child. Kaycie Davis claims that her son was constantly bullied and that the school acted slowly to the allegations.
Davis' son use to go to Roland-Grise Middle School in Wilmington but she pulled him out a couple of weeks ago. Davis said her son was verbally and physically abused by fellow classmates and that the school district did very little.

"He has been bullied, he has been threatened, he has been beaten up,” said mother Kaycie Davis. “He's been called every name in the book you can possibly imagine."

Davis said the bullying was so bad that her son needed professional help. The mom said she contacted the school and the district about her situation several times.

She was sent a letter from Roland-Grise Middle School Assistant Principal John Branson. The letter acknowledges the issues Davis' son has had at school.

In one line Branson wrote, "I feel that he is a student who wants to get along with others and fit in but like many 6th graders has had difficulty deciding how to be socially successful."

Davis said the letter did very little to help her son, which is why she recently decided to pull her son out and find a new school. The mom said she doesn't want other parents to go though the same situation and wants the district to create tougher punishments for repeat bullies.

"If a child lays a hand on another child to hurt them, I mean adults are not allowed to do that why should children be allowed to do that,” said Davis. “If an adult does that they go to jail so why shouldn't a student end up going to juvi?"

As for the New Hanover County school district it cannot comment on specific incidents but released this statement…

"New Hanover County Schools has a zero tolerance for bullying behavior. What this means is we work to resolve each claim of bullying and our goal is to make our schools physically and emotionally safe for all children."

The district added that deciding on a punishment would depend on the severity of the case. According to Davis her son's school did punish the bullies with a couple days of suspension but Davis said still that is not enough.

The district advises parents to contact the school quickly if they feel like their child is being bullied.

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The fact that some of you

The fact that some of you work for the school system and would even comment on this situation proves what a failure the public education system is. And Dear Ramona,Please explain to us how a sixth grade child can stalk another child on a class trip or at school? In my day we called it a crush. Really you are that angry at this childs mother for standing up for her son? Or is it the fact that your child may have been a part of the problem?
The fact that anyone would insinuate that this child brought this upon himself shows what ignorant and arrogant this society can be. No child deserves for anyone to lay their hands on them to harm them in anyway.Do you have any idea of the psychological effects bullying can have on a child? let me enlighten you, PTSD can occur any time someone feels they have no control over the way their pain is delivered. They live in fear, not knowing when they're going to be hurt. Kids who are constantly bullied and not protected will develop symptoms of PTSD -- constant anxiety, constant fear, idiosyncratic behaviors to compensate for those feelings. They'll fall behind in their development.
It hurts to be bullied, and this fact should never be minimized. Teachers, parents and school officials are sometimes inclined to say, "Well, they’re only kids. It happens." It shouldn’t happen, and it's adults' responsibility to provide a healthy environment for our children. The best schools are the ones who develop a zero tolerance for violence and zero tolerance for bullying, and parents should demand that and support it. And any school that claims to have zero tolerence and does not stick to its policies should be held accountable.
You question how this mother is raising her child, Well I question how you and the parents of these "bullies" are raising their children!

MISPLACED PRIORITIES

I think that even the nature and nuture debate can continue with this particular case; bullying is serious and needs to be dealt with. We were so quick in thinking that the mother had other motives to seek help for her child but we would point the finger if she had not. We cant have it both ways. And because she is a single parent does not mean that she has every Tom, Dick and Harry in her home (to whoever made that rude comment). If the focus remain where it should - the child, perhaps we would agree that all should be done to ensure that every child attend school free from abuse and threatening situations.
And to the media, I wonder what effect do they think that bringing up the past regarding the mother will have on her son? Do they think that will help? Does it justify the punishment? No, it does not. But, we seek information that is controversial at the detriment of a child! Now, the news has set this child up for more ridicule and torment for something his mother has done and paid her debt to society. Understanding that it is not the fault of the media when the crime originally took place, it is the fault of the media to continue to victimize the CHILD!
Shame on you all. Have some compassion for this child. No matter the reasons of the mother.

Home life means alot

Home life has a lot to with how kids act. What they see at home including parents acting. Will be how they will also act and say. I am still proud of this child speaking up about what has happen. but, MOM needs to look at herself. What can she change in her life to help with home life. Who does she let in the boys life. what does he see at home? I am not saying that the action that the kids done was right by no means. but, it isn't all up to the schools. So, she is a single mom. Don't mean you have to bring every tom dick or harry around in the house. Get the help the boy needs right now while there is a change he can become a fine young man.

Sad...

First, I applaud this kid for talking about a difficult situation. That takes courage. Bullying is nothing more than cowardice expressing itself through cruelty. Sadly, it leaves scars on it's victims. Secondly, I could not imagine going back to high school now. With facebook and texting and twitter, the quantity of our ways to communicate with one another has gone up while the quality of what we have to say has gone down. For bully's looking to spread malicious rumors or to instigate fights, this technology makes it all to easy. I implore both parents and educators to take this sort of behavior seriously because the victims will stop reporting the incidents if nothing is done to help them and the bullies will escalate their actions if nothing is done to stop them.

As a former educator, I

As a former educator, I would be surprised if there was not more to this story than the parent is stating. I am appalled at how often the public is quick to pass judgment on teachers and educators without having all the facts. Remember that parents can say whatever they want but educators are bound by confidentiality and professional good sense.

This particular child was

This particular child was stalking my daughter on a class trip and in the school. My daughter approached him to ask him to stop. He didn't think he was in the wrong. I work for the school system and I understand the bullying process. I guess I should go fill out a report on her child for the way that he was with my child. He needs to learn how to interact with other students. He will never learn that if his parent doesn't teach that. It is not only the school's job to teach these skills.

Run away - THAT'S the answer!

Did you ever tell your son to stand up for himself, or are you planning on protecting him and fighting his battles for the rest of your life?

Truth vs. Rating's

It's too bad that today's media doesn't do more research on a story before running it. Only quoting one line from a letter is to only boost ratings for Mr. Herrera's story and he knows that the school cannot comment, therefore making a better story. I would suggest you google the mother's name and you can quickly see her history goes way beyond the issues she is raising at this local school. She is a local author for this particular type of abuse, I’m sure this might help boost book sales. Good job Mr. Herrera!

Bullying leaves lifelong scars

It's been over 30 years since I left school (notice I didn't use the word "graduated").

Long term sustained bullying really left me questioning myself, feeling worthless, and being messed up for years. I had a hard time keeping a job. There was not a nickname (heh) I wouldn't expect to just "shut up and take it" nearly every day. My own given name was butchered to the point where, when I became an adult, I changed my legal name, since just hearing the name aroused angry feelings.

Many years of hard work have changed my present day situation, but even time can't stop the rude interruption to my endeavor to just move on in life. Sometimes the memories are so vivid it physically hurts.

First...

my parents taught me to take up for myself if physically attacked....second...they taught me to ignore any of the other crap...because later in life it wouldn't matter...and THEY WERE RIGHT...seems like you should just stop dwelling on what is the past...its OVER...

Kids

First, I would like to say good for your son standing up and saying this has happen to me. A lot of times kids don't speak about this. Press charges. This is the only way this is going to stop. Kids need to be held accountable for what they do and don't do. I think alot of time they get the easy way out. Kicking them out of school for a couple of days. well isn't that what they want. I am very proud of this young boy for standing up.

constantly bullied

The problem here is that we've allowed the school system to police itself instead of the juvenile court system.

"In one line Branson wrote, "I feel that he is a student who wants to get along with others and fit in but like many 6th graders has had difficulty deciding how to be socially successful."

So in a nutshell, he's a good kid, but he's socially awkward.

This clown should resign. I'm sure if he were attacked in public, he would be the first to file charges on the attacker.
But since it's at a school, and happening on a regular basis, this kid should try to decide how to be more socially acceptable.

"New Hanover County Schools has a zero tolerance for bullying behavior. What this means is we work to resolve each claim of bullying and our goal is to make our schools physically and emotionally safe for all children."

Well, it doesn't seem to be working. Maybe a total shake up of the school system, including new rules for bulling are in order.

"The district added that deciding on a punishment would depend on the severity of the case." There you have it. Take it out of the hands of the screwll system and put it in the hands of CAPABLE public servants, namely police and prosecutors.

Let the parents of "bullies" spend time in court, miss work, and the little terror will get the message. These procedures would solve the problem quickly, and if they don't, let the parents of bullies have to pay for private schools instead of the innocent victim.

The school system is incapable of minding their own business, why do we let them mishandle assaults of children.

I have two children at

I have two children at Roland Grise. I have no idea what the details of this case are so I will not even speculate on it. No matter what there is a child that feels unsafe and unaccepted. That is what should be focused on.

I will however, say that I have dealt with Mr. Branson on several occasions. He is a good man. He is fair and cares deeply for these children. My youngest son was bullied and Mr. Branson was quick to act and make sure it stopped. It did take time though.My son is now thriving at school like he neve has before. He knows that if anything is wrong he can go to Mr. Branson and it will be taken care of. That doesn't mean my son will always be happy about the way it is handled but he will always know his feelings are respected and taken into account.

It is sad that some are so quick to condem this man when he is doing his very best for our kids. I doubt most of those spouting insults have ever even met him.

Hmm...the article never said

Hmm...the article never said anything about the parent actually going up to the school and meeting with the VP, principal, or any guidance counselors. As a former Roland-Grise student (and now a junior at Hoggard) I'm pretty sure the school does take action if there is a bullying problem occurring. If suspensions don't stop the bullying then press charges. Don't interrupt your child's education by putting him in a new school with new teachers and new students. Take legal action and make the bullies parents become involved so that they can be responsible for what their child is doing.

Expose the bullying & those that condone it...

No...the article didn't say if or how many times this parent did go or contact the school... It also did not say that she didn't...but we do know that the letter mentioned in the article tells us that she obviously had contacted them & we also hear that the bullies were suspended..now that says that not only was the school officials aware but the bullies' parents must have or at the very least should have been contacted by the school officials & a meeting with them was imperative.. Obviously...the "zero tolerance" in effect did not apply to this child having the right to go to this school & have the same effective day as the bullies that needed to be educated instead of condoned... It's been brought to our attention through the media quite often recently as to how wide-spread & how dangerous bullying has is... that means it should be a priority that it be recognized & yes...A PRODUCTIVE Zero Tolerance for it... Now granted..it's a no brainer..there are kids that go to that school & any school that has a fine & good experience all the way through...we do know that not all kids are treated equally...variations are... money...parent's status in the community..job status..just point blank...all this makes a big difference..money & social status paves the way..it should not...but it is a fact... another real fact these days is...the one that has had the glory road all through school...SO FAR...is not guaranteed a pass ticket that it will never happen to them or someone they love.. I do believe no one..regardless of their social status should be bullied & it be covered or condoned by anyone!! As far as disrupting his education...another no brainer...it has been done by his "fellow students..aka...bullies"... Yes... I do totally agree in turning to the legal process when the people appear to have no remorse to a young man not being given the opportunity to have an education & to have peace of mind in doing so...what would we do if we were the parent...when you are having to put your son in the hands of the school board that actually get paid to give this student the same rights as every other student...Since this obviously is not a new issue for this young man... that means someone has chosen to look the other way..not get involved..or condone the behavior of bullies... so in saying that... I say they have all already had time to make a choice of integrity and help this student & actually in doing so they could have helped the overbearing students that are on a sad road that will not be fruitful to them or others unfortunately that have to be in their lives...help the bullies learn now at an early enough age that choices matter...they do & will always have consequences..good or bad... it all depends on them & their enablers.I also encourage other students..when you see this behavior taking place...stand up for the one being mentally, verbally or physically abused... REPORT IT!!! & CONTINUE TO REPORT TO YOUR PARENTS TO THE SCHOOL OFFICIALS..IF NEITHER OF THEM CHOOSE TO HEAR YOU...KEEP GOING...GO TO OR CALL POLICE TO REPORT IT...STAND UP FOR THE VICTIM...IT MAY BE YOU NEXT OR EVEN LATER IN LIFE... & PLEASE DON'T WAIT UNTIL SOMEONE IS PERMANENTLY HURT OF EVEN DEAD...BY THE HAND OF THE TORMENTORS OR AS SOMETIMES HAPPENS...SUICIDE TO ESCAPE THE GRIEF & PAIN.... NOW...THAT WOULD BE TRUE "ZERO TOLERANCE" THAT WE COULD ALL BE "SURE" OF....

So sad

So sad that it has come to her having to take her child out of school. So sad that the school system won't do anything. Blame it on political correctness and the fear of being sued. That is all school systems are worried about today - someone might turn and around and sue them because their kid was punished. If this had happened out on the street, the kid would be hauled in and charged with assault.

We as a society expect our kids to grow up and be responsible adults - how can they when the adults around them don't teach them to be responsible. Where are the parents of the kid doing the bullying? Are they being held accountable or are they defending the bullying as a "childhood ritual". Bullies will keep on bullying until they are stopped or some other kid "cleans their clock". Then you will see the parents holler!

Take the bully, teach him/her that it is not acceptable and make them face the consequences of their actions. Then, and only then, will it stop.

Bullying will escalate - the next time there might be a weapon involved. What will you do then Mr. school system?

Hey Anne - why don't YOU

Hey Anne - why don't YOU take the bullies home with you and teach them right from wrong. How about that? Then you can release them back into society and everything will be just peachy.
Stop drinking the Kool Aid and wake up! Everyone's answer is to "fix" bullying - but what people fail to realize is that the term bullying has went global and has been blown WAY out of context. Just because children say things to each other or tease each other, does not mean they are bullying each other. Bullying is an imbalance of power - how often does that actually occur? As an educator, I guarantee that the only reason this issue is such a hot topic is because of lack of information and misinformation fed to the public by the media. This is just another gossip topic to get people stirred up and angry at the educational system.
And this is to all parents with children in the school system - you send us your children for six to eight hours a day. You want us to feed them, guide them, educate them, train them, but when we try to discipline them and help them understand the consequences of their behavior, then we are vilified and persecuted by parents and the media who really don't understand childhood behavior and what is going on in the school system.
So...if you don't like the way the educational system works with your children, private schools are begging for students, and homeschool programs are on the rise. Do us a favor and keep your kids home.

To the educator that addressed Anne..

I realize these posts are a couple of months old, but I had to voice my opinion like everyone else on here. This is to the educator that addressed her post to Anne:
Honestly, the way you even started out replying to this page is disappointing; your lack of etiquette and your sarcastic comment only proves the theory that parents AND educators are responsible for the safety and punishment of our children. Your post even sounds like you may be one of the teachers that bully kids themselves (see website below *), that may be why you are taking the subject so lightly.
Bullying is defined in Wikipedia as " a form of abuse. It involves repeated acts over time attempting to create or enforce one person's (or group's) power over another person (or group) , thus an "imbalance of power".[1] The "imbalance of power" may be social power and/or physical power. The victim of bullying is sometimes referred to as a target. Bullying types of behavior are often rooted in a would-be bully's inability to empathize with those whom he or she would target.Bullying consists of three basic types of abuse – emotional, verbal and physical. It typically involves subtle methods of coercion such as intimidation."
It is defined in Merriam Websters dictionary as "1: to treat abusively 2: to affect by means of force or coercion".
This is how olweus.org defines it "1. Bullying is aggressive behavior that involves unwanted, negative actions.2. Bullying involves a pattern of behavior repeated over time.3. Bullying involves an imbalance of power or strength"; and this is what it lists as types of bullying "1. Verbal bullying including derogatory comments and bad names2. Bullying through social exclusion or isolation 3. Physical bullying such as hitting, kicking, shoving, and spitting 4. Bullying through lies and false rumors 5. Having money or other things taken or damaged by students who bully 6. Being threatened or being forced to do things by students who bully 7. Racial bullying 8. Sexual bullying 9. Cyber bullying (via cell phone or Internet)". Here are some others:
The Hyperdictionary: http://www.hyperdictionary.com/search.aspx?define=bullying
1. the act of intimidating a weaker person to make them do something
2. noisily domineering; tending to browbeat others
Chambers Dictionary
(bullies) a person who hurts, frightens or torments weaker or smaller people.
1. to act like a bully towards someone; to threaten or persecute them.
2. (usually bully someone into something) to force them to do something they do not want to do.

MSN Encarta: http://encarta.msn.com/encnet/features/dictionary/DictionaryResults.aspx...
intimidation of weaker person: the process of intimidating or mistreating someone weaker or in a more vulnerable situation.

*There are also teachers that bully in more subtle ways; basically "an aggressive act exhibited by an authority figure." The following website tells about ways a student can bully a student or a teacher can bully a student because of the "imbalance of power" (the same imbalance of power that you are convinced hardly ever occurs). http://www.melissainstitute.org/documents/BULLYING.pdf

So i will have to agree that there is a lack of information but it seems like the educators, not the parents, are the ones that are misinformed. And the biggest reason that people get stirred up and angry at the educational system is because of educators, much like yourself, that don't seem to care too much about the well being of our children, and have this attitude that we, as parents, are expecting too much out of you. You chose the path you wanted to take, went to school for it, and are now doing it. The hostility you represent in your post not only seems like you could care less about the kids, but that you have chosen the wrong profession. Maybe it is you, and the educators that share in your feelings, that should stay at home, and not the kids; and also keep in mind that the parents of those "non-bullied" children are playing a role in paying your salary every year, just like the bullies' parents are.
Seeing as you are signed in as guest, I only hope that my children are not in your care each day; and it is probably good that you did not state the school you represent-since you have little knowledge of this subject, it would more than likely be an embarrassment to the school system, and those who attend, to know that one of their trusted educators feels like bullying is not as serious as everyone is making it.

Wow, Tell that to my friend

Wow,
Tell that to my friend whose daugher died at the hands of her bullies
Her teacher knew and didnt want to get involved..
Lots of schools sweep it under the rug.
My daughter was lucky, her bullies were known bullies and because me as her mum kicked up a fuss those children were delt with.
Yes educators job are made much tougher these days with uncoperative parents, who dont care, that however doesnt mean that you can put us all in the same boat.
And no i hate the school system and wish i was fortunate enough to homeschool my child...
So i as a parent have to trust that u as an educator are doing a great job...
You know better than most non educators that there are great teachers amd then not so great teachers..

misunderstood

Your anger is misplaced and you misconstrued what I was saying. I don't have any problem with discipline in the school - in fact, when they took away the spankings, that is where alot of the problem began. And yes, bullying can be as simple as calling someone a name or taking their money,, but you should know as an educator and if you are truly paying attention, that alot of bullying has escalated to physical violence, and emotional distress.

But thank you for your suggestions. Since I no longer have a child in the school system, I don't have to worry about that, and no thanks - I don't want anyone else's children.

Her post did not display anger in any form...

...it simply displays frustration, which I completely understand. The parents of these unruly, bullying children do not enforce rules in their own homes, much less the educators environment. This fact is testimony to the reason that these children act out in the way they do with their emotionally demoralizing and educationally distracting tactics. They realize they can get away with it and usually do, simply due to the lack of control by the educators. This lack of control is not the fault of the educators, but is mandated by our society as to "WHO" can and cannot correct our children. A very severe breakdown of a system that once worked at school and at home. Children these days will push the envelope to the extreme max. and even go as far as to call DSS on their own parents.

Bullying is NOT a simple name-calling! Bullying is the instilling of FEAR in another human, a threat and intimidation of physical and/or emotional pain, a domination by belittling and embarrasment encompassed by a display of power that may or may not be real! I endured it as a child until I finally stood up one day, took the challenge and won. It cost me a day of suspension, but it never happened again!

As for your comment about your children NOT being in the school system. Make yourself aware that bullies exist everywhere and at all ages! You or your children are not shielded from them simply by attending a private institution. Your shield should be to learn how to effectively deal with bullies! It is your only defense...other than running.

school needs to fix bullying

the boy is entitled to a free and appropriate education. send him to cape fear academy and make the nh school system pay the $20,000 tuition

Bullying kills

We've seen the results of bullying in schools. From the low end, low self esteem, school work affected, anti-social behavior to the other end... SUICIDE. When are the adults going to stand up and make a stand? The schools need to stand up and make sure these kids know they will not tolerate it, no matter what it takes. Are the statistics not there? They are there and there's plenty of stories to back them up! PARENTS also need to be held responsible for these bullying kids. Please have a talk with your kids about the effects of bullying on children. Make it a priority. Lets not let ANY kid's childhood get ruined for life by bullying. Childhood is so important and should be cherished. It's OUR responsibility as adults to assure our children's safety. All of our children!

How is this for

How is this for punishment....Sue the child for assault. Since he is a minor I assume it makes the parents responsible for the damages. Make the parents take responsibility for juniors actions.

More Bullying (of Course)

"New Hanover County Schools has a zero tolerance for bullying behavior." The only problem is they don't usually do much about it. Zero tolerance is only words without real actions. Pull your kids out of these county schools if there's any way you can afford to, or move to a quality school system, such as Chapel Hill or Cary. That's what I had to do to get my children a decent, safe education in North Carolina.

bullying

Same thing goes on at Noble Middle as well. I had a child that was bullied constantly and complained to the administration, wherein nothing was done. I spent hours on the phone to guidance counselors, vice principals and even the principal and received the same result... which was no action and a continuous motion of ignoring the problem. I even made a complaint to the Superintendent's office, in which nothing came of that either. But Noble loves to tout their zero tolerance policy of bullying, and last year claimed not to have one single incidence of bullying the entire school year. If it weren't such a serious subject, it would be laughable. It just goes to show that you can't believe a darned thing that these administrators tell you. Their lies about a subject that serious has me questioning every statement or action coming out of that school and a total lack of confidence in the superintendent's office.