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The parent of a Cumberland County 7th grader said her daughter is getting bullied by classmates. She also claims the principal will not stop it. Twelve-year-old Allyson Inman claims several classmates make rude remarks to her daily, and one even touched her inappropriately. Now her mother is filing criminal charges against the kids she said are bullying her daughter. The Southview Middle School principal said the school conducted an investigation about Inman's complaints. Cumberland County sheriff's detectives said it will take about a week to investigate her complaint and file charges.

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Bullying

Well, I would talk to the superintendant, then maybe if that did not work, talk with local police magistrate about filing charges against school.

Contact a local attorney who

Contact a local attorney who is knowledgeable about your local and state laws. More than likely, you can file charges AGAINST the PARENTS of the child. Also, get the school involved RIGHT AWAY. If the school does not help to intervene (whatever misbehavior is happening on school grounds), you may be able to hold them accountable as well. Good luck!

I was small for my age and

I was small for my age and had problems with bullies when I was 8 or 9 years old back in the late 80's. My parents told me to fight back and that's what I did. I didn't have any more trouble after that.

Bullying

I was bullied as a child, and after my older brother tried to put an end to it, I finally took matters into my own hands. It took care of the situation IMMEDIATELY.

Children need to be taught that they have the power within themselves to stand up for themselves, that they have the same rights as everyone else. Unfortunately, a growing problem in our society is lack of parental involvement and supervision. A startling statistical fact is that a vast majority, greater than 90%, of those juveniles who bully end up being a felon when they are adults.

Children have to be taught to stand up for themselves, to defend, themselves, to do the next right thing because the right and moral adult supervision is not always there.

I am a firm believer that NOT ONLY should the bully be held accountable, but the PARENT(S) be held accountable and responsible as well.

MAYBE, just MAYBE this will turn things around.

BOTTOM LINE: the RIGHT lesson in humanity, integrity, accountability, morals, and fair treatment NEED TO BE INSTILLED BY PARENTS AND CONTINUALLY TAUGHT AT HOME!

PARENTS..........GET A FREAKING CLUE!!!!!!!!!!!

bullying

I agree completely I was bullied when I was in high school and now my son has been bullied. I would come pick my son up from elementary school and he would have black eyes he was kicked in the chest and ribs while the teachers stood in the distance talking and not paying attention. My son money was taken from him everyday and threatened he became quiet, he gained a lot of weight, he was sad all the time. He is in a new school district this year and he is nervous and has anxiety attack thinking what could happen this year. I spoke to a parent that was with this district last year about the school she seem like she wanted to tell me more but didn't want to worry me so I spoke with the principle also and she didn't even make me feel any better. I'm tired of worrying about my children at school were they should be safe.I feel they should make bullying a felony, suspending a student, giving fines aren't doing anything cause the parent is paying that, detention not doing nothing we need to take this more serious and our children will stop committing suicide and or clicking and shooting up the schools and killing innocent kid. If kids knew they were facing time they wouldn't do it it's a serious matter so it should be a serious consequence

My opinion and only a

My opinion and only a opinion is that the only inappropriate conduct that is going on is that neither the school nor the cumberland county school board is addressing the issue. There are filing down at the sheriff's office in regards to activities that are going on in that school. I am a parent with children going to that school and I am very concerned about there well being. I believe we are supposed to send our children to school to get a eduction, and that is a responsibility of the state to provide a safe place for them. That is not Happening at this school! Will try to get parents together to try to help resolve some of these issues.

More than a week?

It's been more than a week have any charges been filed in Cumberland County? Does any one have any info?

Charges filed???

Haven't heard anything about charges being filed in that case. I do notice that all the bullying at Codiginton posts have been removed! INTERESTING! What happens in the dark will ALWAYS come out in the light!

Bullying

Yes, It is STILL going on at CODINGTON! I have now had to get an attorney involved since the Sherriff's department can't even help me.

Is That

The question is. They can't help you or won't help you. I believe it the latter of these.

Just tell your kids to let

Just tell your kids to let the bully know that their Father is a "Hit Man" for the Mafia. That will do it!

Bully's

Best answer I have heard yet! No one gets hurt...that's a good one!

until some pistol-packing

until some pistol-packing anklebiter watches The Sopranos and chooses the dad in question for a career-building skills demonstration

Years ago when I was in high

Years ago when I was in high school, there was a girl who had lost her hair due to some medical condition. She wore a wig to school but anyone over the age of 40 knows what the wigs at that time looked like, so there was no mistaking it was not her hair. What amazed me was not the fact that the other students made this girl's life a torment from the time she got on the bus in the morning til the time she got off, but even more so, the teachers that wanted to appear to be "so cool" to their students joined in the torment. The girl tried to fit in. She was a good student, and she was interested in writing so she joined the journalism class. The teacher in charge of the yearbook and school paper actually led the campaign to get this girl to drop the class. My daughter was bullied for a time in junior high school, but since she is in 9th grade now and at the same school with her brother, no one bothers her. He is 6'5" and weighs 250 pounds and has never hurt a fly, but no one takes a chance. It is sad that children who are bullied cannot feel like they can get relief from reporting the situation to the school authorities. If this lady cannot get relief from the school, then she is well within her rights to file criminal charges against the students. It isn't like they don't know what they are doing in wrong.

bullying

I am glad the mother is filing charges. I went the same kind of thing with my daughter when she was in the 5th grade in Pittsburg KS. I tried talking to the teachers, then the school counselor, and then the principal. All to no avail. I finally had a conference with all of them at one time and let them know that if they did not put an immediate stop to the bullying I was going to file a law suit against them for not protecting my daughter. This got their attention. The two girls involved were put into detention and their parents were notified. Believe it or not the girls and my daughter did eventually become friends and the two that had been doing the bullying realized that their behavior was immature and unwarranted. I hope this Miss Inman is successful in her attempts at getting the bullying stopped. Bullying can be very damaging to the object of the bullying.

Discipline and Bullies

I am new to the parenting scene. But I am not new to the whole bullying scene. I was picked on and bullied in school. My parents let me stand up for myself and there were some battles I am sure they helped me to fight. But did anyone ever think that bullying is the effect of a parent not giving a damn? Honestly you should undergo severe psychological testing to be a parent nowadays. It is sad but true. Parents bully kids, kids bully other kids. I shudder to think what will happen when my son goes to school but I know that he will be aware of what to do in regards to self defense and that he will know he can come to me anytime he needs to. I commend the mom pressing charges because I would do a lot worse. She is being nice about it. But to make a good point every parent can learn from, if you spare the rod you spoil the child. There is a fine line between discipline and abuse, so be careful when disciplining your child, but don't always be the best friend. Love your child, be a friend, but be a parent. Show them you are in charge and that you know what is best for them. Parents are not meant to bully their children and children are not meant to bully the parent or fellow children. Of course if we raised our kids the way God intended, we wouldn't have all the problems. But we stray and the problems arise. So what is that telling us? Go back and let God help you. Simple solution...

Why do they bully?

Ive always wondered, why do we/they bully? ive got picked on durin' school, & i've never bullied someone atleast i dont think i did. i think its missery when your bullied. my own kid gets bullied & he wonders the same thing "why do they bully?" comment if you know why they bully.

I think bullies bully

I think bullies bully because of a few reasons...
1) they are insecure themselves
2) it's a way to get attention
3) there isn't any kind of structure at home
4) they are being bullied themselves

Kids Can't Fight Back Anymore

My son goes to Pine Valley and is Christian. I'm sure I will get flack for this but I don't care..He gets bullied from Muslims. As a parent, I've stood up against with teachers and principles and they have resolved the problem hands down. However, if your child is being bullied as mine was all year, you cannot fight back in any sort of way. You can't push back once pushed, etc. Both children will be suspended. If my childs gets suspended for defending himself, then so be it. The state of affairs with our public schools has me considering they don't have the qualifications to be teaching my son, so it may be homeschool at some point.

Hmmmm

But isn't Islam a peaceful religion?? Yea, I didn't think so either.

Bullying...yes, put your foot down

Absolutely ! This mother is right on and others need to make a stand against bullying - - DO NOT let Your child deal with it alone, especially if it has been an on-going issue. When kids are victimized by bullies they are usually "at a loss for words and/or actions" on what to do. We took matters into our own hands - - and our son's bully is now a "shadow of himself." He will NOT be bullying anyone again. My husband (big guy, muscular) met the kid after school and asked him, "What his problem was...if it happens again then the police will be involved." Well...it NEVER happened again and the bully's mother went on antidepressants. You reap what you sow. If you are going to dish it out (bullies) - you better be prepared to take it !! We are our children's protectors if the need should arise.

As an elementary counselor,

As an elementary counselor, I consider your husband's actions to be bullying - intimidation because he is bigger and stronger. If the school does not have an anti - bullying program, they should start one. Start by talking with your child's teacher, and keep going up the chain of command to the School Board until the school responds appropriately. They are required by law to do so. You do more harm than good by sending an adult to fight a child's battles, as the child will never learn to do so for themselves.

I could not disagree with you more

Somebody needs to confront the bully and let them know somebody knows about them. The father did not threaten to hurt the child, only asked him what the problem is and let him know what he was doing was not ok and if it continued there would be consequences. If parents are not going to teach there children somebody will. I would rather deal with the issues my self then wait till we have an out of control adult and the legal system is dealing with them.

Yes, my daughter's

Yes, my daughter's elementary school had a school counselor as well. But since he was currently undergoing therapy for his bad temper and beating his wife, it was made crystal clear that any time she needed "counseling", to call me and we could take care of that at home. Of course he had also held the position of custody mediator for the county we live in at one time. Most of the problems with the schools today is that personnel are hired based on what diplomas are hung on the wall and not the actual person.

an elementary school

counselor? Is this what our educational system has come to? Elementary school counselors? Is that to provide suggestions on favorite colors? I'm not trying to be mocking; but how on earth does one counsel elementary school children? There was a time, and it was not that long ago when there was no such animal as an elementary school counselor. I saw a counselor in High School who assisted in making college based decisions. She also mentored those who were not college bound on career options as well as draft options. My daughter did not see a counselor until high school. She seemed to survive the pre high school absence and went on to a stellar college experience at Chapel Hill and a Masters from George Mason. Perhaps part of the problem is the presence of counselors before they are really needed and the pressure they put on parents who are trying to be good parents. But then in my school days, and those of my daughter, we had no need for school resource police officers. Schools focused on schooling; Parents focused on child rearing.

Stupidity shining through

No, things are not like they used to be 'back in the day'. Back in the day I could let my kids go outside and play and not worry about some pervert trying to take them. Back in the day, I could walk around the mall at age 12 by myself and not have to worry about my safety. But we no longer live 'back in the day'. We live in the here and now. And here and now, counselors are required. My son REFUSED to stand up for himself. Not because he was scared but because he didn't want to hurt the other child. He is not a small child and his younger siblings are smaller than he is so we have to remind him to be careful when he rough houses with them. And I believe that is why he wouldn't fight back. Plus, he felt there were other ways to deal with the issue. I am thankful for the counselor at our school. She is a wonderful lady who truly loves children and does what she can to help out anyone in need and it isn't just psychological counseling. It's helping with social services if someone loses their home or making sure the child has what he/she needs for school, etc. I'm glad you're daughter didn't need services (or at least not that you may have paid attention to) however there are those who do need it. The use of a counselor may be used by SOME to replace their own parenting skills but that is not a characterization for ALL!!!

Another kid ruined

"My son REFUSED to stand up for himself. Not because he was scared but because he didn't want to hurt the other child. He is not a small child and his younger siblings are smaller than he is so we have to remind him to be careful when he rough houses with them." Perhaps if you had told the younger, smaller siblings to "get tougher or run faster," your oldest son would not have been afraid to stand up for himself? You see, he WAS scared. He was scared of ticking you off or disappointing you by violating some enforced weenie status you have heaped upon him. You need to tell him that there are times when violence is justifiable. When he kicks the snot out of some bully, you need to stand behind him and support that decision. I wonder what law enforcement and the military is going to be like in twenty years, when the recruiters have nothing but "nice, caring, gentle souls" to choose from.

assumptions

You make assumptions about situations you have NO clue! We actually have let the children have knock down drag out fights (with our supervision).They've come away with scratches, bruises, etc. No broken bones or major injuries but my husband and I do recognize they need to deal with their unresolved anger issues they have with each other at times. My son is NOT scared of me. I told him on a daily basis to kick the snot out of that punk kid. I backed him up EVERY DAY!!! It is the school system who didn't back him up. He knew from the get go that if he got in trouble at school he would NOT get in trouble at home as long as he was standing up for himself or his siblings! My child gets suspended from school because he was standing up for himself or his siblings, there won’t be punishment at home. He’ll have a mini vacation! Also, I resent the implication that you have placed on my child as a 'weenie'. Yes, he is a gentle, caring soul who also happens to be a CHILD!!! A child who is still trying to learn his way in this messed up world overbearing, know it all people like you have created for us. You always have a lot to say and anything someone says to the contrary is wrong. Of course, I shouldn’t expect anything less coming from you. In fact, it is difficult to figure out who the bigger bully is on these forums: Common or SurfCity Tom!

Must have hit a nerve, huh?

Now tell your son to take care of the bully *AWAY* from school, and back him up to the hilt. There is a time when "gentle and caring" needs to be placed on the shelf, temporarily.

Nerve

yeah ya hit a nerve but you usually do! I agree there is a time to place gentle and caring on the shelf and that is what I tried to do. As for getting the bully 'away' from school? The child doesn't live in our neighborhood nor do they ride the same bus. So that wasn't an option either!