Chairside confessional: How Black men turn to barbers to talk about their problems

"You can talk to someone. You can reach out to someone... That's a big outlet, and not many people have that outlet."

NEW HANOVER COUNTY (WWAY)–In many communities, barbershops have long been more than just a place to get a haircut. For Black men, these spaces have become a vital hub for connection, support, and conversations. However, a shift in conservation has been happening- mental health. It’s a growing trend amongst Black men.
At Bigg Redd’s  Barbershop in Wilmington, it’s trim day. A fresh lineup and fade aren’t the only things barbers Urick Little and Fred Darden are giving but also wisdom.

“When we had walk-ins, people would come in just to sit in and have a conversation. We do experience people who book appointments just for that reason too. They may not even need a haircut- just want to feel better,” Little said.

Little says clients would come into the shop and talk about anything, including relationships and the everyday life of being a man. Not to mention, for some Black men, sitting down with a therapist can feel daunting or even unnecessary. So instead, they open up to barbers who are not just skilled with clippers, but who have become skilled listeners. Little says it makes him feel well.

“That I’ve given someone a second chance. It takes a lot for someone to come to you, to talk about what’s going on in their personal life,” Little shared.

Studies show that nearly 60% of Black men report feeling stigmatized when seeking mental health care. One in three rural Black men also reported they experienced suicidal ideation or thoughts of death.

Fred Darden, another barber who cuts hair at Bigg Redd’s, says some of his clients have admitted to having mental health challenges and need help.

“Every blue moon you do. You listen more than you talk sometimes because some people don’t have that outlet,” Darden explained.

Darden shares he will sometimes guide them toward professional resources if needed.

“I’ve been in those situations where I’ve wanted to talk to people and needed to talk to people. It’s not so much I  need feedback. Sometimes you need someone to vent and hear you out,” Darden shared.

As the conversation progressed, Little shared he believes he needs counseling to help with past trauma he has never gotten closure for. However, finances are one challenge holding him back.

“Some of the things I’ve been through over the years. I haven’t dealt with it,” Little shared.  “But, being able to afford to find some professional help and continue to seek professional help.”

It’s one of many problems for other Black men. So, as these important conversations continue in barbershops, the hope is that this trend can break down the walls around mental health care in black communities – where historically it’s been overlooked or misunderstood.

“You can talk to someone. You can reach out to someone. Find someone you can reach out to and talk to. That’s a big outlet, and not many people have that outlet,” Little shared.

If you or someone you know is experiencing mental health challenges or even suicidal thoughts, dial 988. It’s the national suicide and crisis lifeline.